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Chapter 261 Fear of Inability to Communicate After Marriage

"I think it should be when I get married," the girl replied uncertainly, clearly unsure herself.

Zhang Zhe shook his head: "When you go on blind dates, you don't lie to people like this, do you?"

"You should either find an opportunity to ask your family for clarification, or when you go on a blind date, just say that your family can't help you."

"There's nothing shameful about not being able to get married because your family can't support you. There are plenty of people who get married by their own efforts these days."

“But my family doesn’t discriminate against girls!” the girl retorted. “From childhood to adulthood, my family has never wronged me in terms of daily expenses.”

"That's because your younger brother hasn't reached the point where he can compete with you for money yet."

Brother Zhang is a sensible person.

How much do your daily expenses cost? Is it comparable to a house or a car?

This girl's left and right brains are fighting each other.

People don't understand, but this kind of slightly clumsy girl is actually the most suitable to be a wife.

[It seems like her PhD didn't significantly improve her intelligence; now I understand why she didn't get a degree from a top-tier university.]

It's not surprising that the girl has this kind of thinking. The age gap between her and her brother is too big, and it won't have any impact until they get married, start their own families, and divide the inheritance.

But these are precisely the factors that need to be considered when getting married.

Zhang Zhe could tell that the girl wasn't quite ready to grasp the situation yet, or perhaps she still had some expectations for her family.

Maybe she's right.

So let's not dwell on that point for now:

"Sister, let's assume your family doesn't discriminate against boys, and let's focus on yourself first."

What do you look like?

"If 10 is the highest score, what score would you give yourself?"

Zhang Zhe posted the scoring criteria from before to avoid situations like the girl who gave herself a very "mediocre" 5 points, which amused the audience in the live stream.

"If we use your standards, I would give myself a 3 out of 10."

"Okay, I understand." Zhang Zhe nodded.

A score of 3 is a hurdle in the live streaming world. Girls who rate themselves as 3 are those who know they are not pretty and cannot benefit from their looks, but they also don't think they are ugly.

The actual score is usually between 2 and 3.

Judging from the fact that this girl has never posted any photos on her Xiaohongshu (Little Red Book) page, she's probably rated below 2.5.

"Let me summarize your situation for you: You are the kind of ordinary person who, regardless of your looks or figure, would be hard to spot in a crowd."

"Your only redeeming quality right now is your academic background."

"Is there anything to add?"

"No." The girl was quite clear-headed about her situation: "I only started focusing on my academic qualifications because I knew that relying on my looks wouldn't lead to anything."

"But after finishing my doctorate, I felt a bit lost."

"I don't know what kind of person I should be looking for."

"Are you completely clueless?" Zhang Zhe didn't believe it. "At least have a general direction, right? What's your ideal type?"

"Or what kind of boys have you had crushes on since you were a child?"

"That kind of thing does exist."

"I admire people who are stronger than me."

[A PhD who admires strength? Then you'd better consult an academician.]

[I suggest you just contact your own doctoral supervisor directly; it'll solve the problem in one go.]

[A normal girl who admires strength wants to find a rich man, but she's a PhD, so I'm really not sure.]

[Mu Qiang wants to marry into a higher social class, but given her circumstances, that's basically impossible.]

“There are many kinds of people who admire strength,” Zhang Zhe analyzed carefully. “Do you value earning power, education, or something else?”

"You can't exactly hire a one-dimensional warrior, can you?"

"I think their educational background should be similar to mine, and they should be a little better at making money than me." After saying that, the girl added, "Teacher, I'm open to working hard together."

It means that she can accept a guy who is currently broke, but he has to be a promising prospect.

"Similar educational background?"

"Are you looking for a PhD from another 985 university? Or is a master's degree enough?"

"A PhD is preferred, but a Master's degree is also acceptable."

"Why didn't you look for one when you were in school?" Zhang Zhe asked, puzzled. "When you were pursuing your master's and doctoral degrees, you were surrounded by PhDs and masters. If you didn't look for one then, why wait until you graduated and entered the workforce?"

"You're going to take the long way around, sister."

"I looked for it when I was in school, but I couldn't find it," the girl said shyly.

[You couldn't find one while you were in school, but you can find one after graduation?]

This indicates that she held no appeal whatsoever in the eyes of her fellow doctoral and master's students at the same university.

She's been in school for too long and still uses the school system to evaluate people, thinking that academic qualifications and grades are the most important things.

[You'll understand this kind of person after working in a big company for two years.]

"Have you ever thought about this, sister? When would a male PhD student, excluding college romances, choose to marry a female PhD student?"

"I do not know about this."

"Let me tell you, it's highly likely that it's when he can't find a young and beautiful girl, is anxious to get married, and discovers that the only option is a female PhD," Zhang Zhe said calmly.

He had looked at a lot of information from matchmaking agencies, and found that male PhDs generally wanted to find younger women, and the highest educational requirement was only a bachelor's degree.

"You may not understand the rules of the current marriage and dating market."

"The most popular choice now is to choose a partner based on differences. You have a strength in A, and he has a strength in B. When you come together, the family has both strengths, A and B."

"A doctoral degree is a significant advantage."

"Many male PhDs are willing to use their strengths to compete with a woman's family background or appearance. If he also wants to find a PhD, then his strengths will no longer be relevant when the two parties are negotiating their marriage."

"You are a highly educated person compared to undergraduates and junior college students, but from my observation, people who have completed their master's degree have completely lost the mystique of a doctoral degree."

[Most PhD programs in China only test one skill: whether the candidate can endure hardship.]

I spent two years in a lab during my undergraduate years, and I've demystified PhD students; all they know is how to tell me what to do.

What Brother Zhang means is, sister, you need to find someone who admires your academic qualifications.

When it comes to value exchange, matchmakers really know how to play the game.

"Am I going in the wrong direction?" the girl murmured to herself. "But if we have different educational backgrounds, will we be unable to communicate after marriage?"

"What will you be discussing after you get married?" Zhang Zhe smiled helplessly. This was another typical girl who idealized marriage.

"Sister, do you think your parents' marriage is happy?"

"Of course they're happy. I think they have a great relationship."

"Okay, that makes things simpler." Zhang Zhe nodded. He believed what the girl said; her parents had a good relationship.

Couples with a poor relationship generally won't have a second child when their daughter is 16.

If a couple's relationship is strained, they should start considering divorce when their daughter is in high school.

"Go home and carefully observe and record what your parents usually talk about. See how much of it is about work and how much is about people, nature, and the universe. Then you'll know what a normal couple talks about."

Zhang Zhe actually knew the standard answer. After a few years of marriage, the topics between the couple basically revolved around the children, daily necessities, and company gossip.

Those who share common interests may have more related topics to discuss.

In reality, most couples only talk about these kinds of things.

As for their spiritual lives, everyone finds their own way to satisfy themselves, which is why there are situations where married women stay home to watch dramas while men go out fishing.

However, Zhang Zhe did not directly tell the female PhD student the answer.

She already has a PhD, just give her a research direction, and trust in her abilities.

(End of this chapter)