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Chapter 259 The Right Way to Provide Emotional Value
"I understand, I can understand."

"but……"

The woman was a bit taken aback by the example Zhang Zhe had just given. If forgiving her husband's trip to the KTV was the only way to show she had a good personality and could provide emotional support, she really didn't know what to do.

"Actually, I also provide emotional value in my daily life."

"I just don't know if it will be enough."

"Hmm..." Zhang Zhe nodded: "Then tell me, how do you usually do it?"

“Tying your hair up doesn’t count.”

"Letting him bury his head in your body doesn't count either."

"Any woman can provide these things. If a woman is more gentle and tender than you, she can easily replace you. Sometimes, even a man can do it."

Zhang Zhe has ruled out quite a few possibilities.

The girl on the live stream thought about it carefully before realizing where else she had provided emotional value:
“I haven’t really taken care of his daily needs, but we’re not living together yet.”

"Outside of our personal lives, when it comes to work, our skill levels are actually quite different. When he encounters difficulties at work, I don't even have the ability to offer advice."

"So I will basically try not to bother him."

“Sometimes he works late, and I’ll quietly stay with him.”

"But his personality is actually quite assertive. Besides being there for him, there's not much else I can do. When I offer him advice on things outside of work, he doesn't listen."

"For example?" Zhang Zhe was very concerned about this point raised by the girl: "What kind of suggestions do you give that he won't listen to?"

“For example, recently he has been suffering from insomnia due to work pressure, and it has become quite serious. I advised him to go to the hospital to see a doctor, but he wouldn’t listen to me.”

"besides……"

"Let's not talk about anything else for now," Zhang Zhe interrupted. "Let's just talk about his insomnia."

"What you did was [persuasion], right?"

"Yes, but he wouldn't listen to my advice."

"Whether you listen or not is not so important." Zhang Zhe shook his head: "Sister, let me give you a simple explanation of how to provide real emotional value."

"I only recently learned this."

[Brother Zhang, is there still a Burning Technique you haven't taught us?]

Being a simp must be the ultimate form of emotional value, right?

I know the answer to this question. Don't just give verbal advice; take direct action.

Is this similar to the methods used by men who live off women?

"This is considered an advanced tutorial for gigolos. Brothers who have already taken the previous lesson are in luck."

"If you want to find a partner who is better off than you, being able to provide emotional value is a must. You don't have to do it, but you must be able to."

"Alright, let's get back to the main topic."

Zhang Zhe wrote the character "劝" (persuasion) on the whiteboard;

Then, below that, he wrote the word "buy";
Finally, I wrote down the word "do".

These are the three levels of emotional value. In fact, many smart viewers in the live stream understood them instantly when written this way.

Zhang Zhe gave a simple explanation:
"When a girl says she has menstrual cramps, the boy tells her to drink more hot water. It's the same as when a boy has insomnia and the girl tells him to see a doctor."

"These are all the most basic forms of advice."

"Anyone who knows how to offer advice is already capable of providing emotional value. This means that such a person is likely to have a good family upbringing and sound values, but lacks any life experience."

"In our current environment, this kind of emotional value can hardly give people a deep feeling. No woman will say you are a warm man just because you tell her to drink more hot water."

[This is just empty talk; it has no real meaning whatsoever.]

The smarter a person is, the more they know that this kind of advice is useless.

To be honest, colleagues at work show this kind of concern for each other, but it doesn't really demonstrate a close relationship.

"This Cocoa Sauce who loves strawberry milkshakes is right. This kind of advice doesn't reflect a close relationship."

"Unless you are someone who is particularly starved for love, in the eyes of most people, this is just the level of concern shown by ordinary friends."

"To go a step further, we need to go to the second stage, which is [buying]."

“Buy what the other person actually needs…” Zhang Zhe gave a particularly popular example online: every time Nvidia releases a new graphics card, there are always girls posting videos of themselves buying a new card for their boyfriends.

Some come with a complete machine.

Some even go so far as to set up a dedicated e-sports room.

Whether the boy's reaction was acting or real, it showed the kind of happiness that came from having his emotional needs greatly met.

Did these things definitely cost a lot of money? Actually, not necessarily, but the returns were extremely high, and some guys were so impressed they were practically kneeling in awe.

This is the correct way to use the word "buy".

If you can satisfy those easily overlooked needs of the other person by buying them something, the emotional value of that can make them remember your kindness for a long time.

"If this were you, sister, would you know how to buy it?"

Zhang Zhe gave them a test question on the spot.

After thinking for a moment, the girl replied, "Should I buy him melatonin? Or sleeping pills?"

"..." Zhang Zhe covered his forehead: "You're too blunt. You could go back and ask your parents how to adjust if you can't sleep well."

"Most likely, it's about changing the bed, the pillow, or creating a more suitable sleeping environment, such as white noise or a dim, hypnotic ambient light."

[Knock him out with one blow]

Get a towel and soak it in ether.

Why do I feel like there aren't any normal people in this live stream?

You just hold him and lull him to sleep.

Take him to get a foot bath; he might fall asleep while doing so.

"Look, the comments section has given you a lot of ideas. People with life experience understand this way of providing emotional value through buying things."

"It's just that they're reluctant to spend the money, or they feel it's unnecessary to spend it, since talking doesn't cost money."

"But it is precisely because everyone thinks this way that being willing to spend money is now considered a very good quality for girls."

Zhang Zhe's statement is somewhat conservative. In fact, a survey by an organization found that the emotional value of a girl spending one yuan on a boy is about ten times that of a boy spending money on a girl.

Of course, this applies during courtship; it doesn't apply after marriage.

"Thank you, Brother Zhang!" the girl said excitedly. "I only knew that I should spend money on men before, but my boyfriend doesn't lack anything. He buys whatever he wants himself."

"Now I know."

"You're thanking me already?" Zhang Zhe stroked his chin casually. "Then, do I still need to give you some pointers on the final step?"

No need, the rest should be paid content.

[That's not enough for her; guys will only appreciate her good qualities, not become dependent on her.]

[Zhang Ge, please continue; I'm preparing to publish a book.]

"Of course, Brother Zhang, please wait a moment."

"What's wrong?"

Zhang Zhe was wondering what the girl was up to when his phone suddenly popped up a notification, reminding him that someone had just placed an order for 10 of the most expensive consultations, which amounted to 1 yuan.

"Sister, you're too kind."

"Most wealthy people would only place one order for this item."

"Isn't that what you said, Brother Zhang? Buying can provide emotional value."

"Great, great, you've put your knowledge to good use." Zhang Zhe nodded in satisfaction. This girl was indeed smart, both in her speech and actions.

The problem might be a lack of life experience.

In this situation, if it were an old hand like Lao Bai, he would definitely add Zhang Zhe as a friend and then send him a red envelope.

This way, you won't have to send money to the platform.

"Actually, doing is an advanced behavior of buying."

"The core idea is to make something that you can buy into something you can't buy. Take cooking as a simple example."

(End of this chapter)