Shocking! The school heartthrob who was adopted by a wealthy family is actually a heiress!

Chapter 341 Behavioral Guidelines (New)

Shen Yanci: "If you have a problem with me, you can scold me privately."

"I have nothing to say to you." Lin Shi rolled her eyes at him and turned to Qin Zhao, "Have you forgotten our family precepts?"

He said, word by word, "A good horse doesn't eat the grass it has already grazed."

"..."

Qin Zhao's lips twitched: "How come I didn't know about this family precept?"

"I just placed the order," Lin Shi said matter-of-factly. "An elder brother is like a father."

Qin Zhao and Shen Yanci exchanged a glance.

Lin Shi exploded: "What are you doing in front of me?"

Qin Zhao looked away, just as his phone screen lit up, displaying a WeChat message: "Want some late-night snacks?"

Lin sent it to her half an hour ago.

She looked at Lin Shi: "Do you want something to eat?"

Lin Shi turned his head away and said stiffly, "I'm full of anger."

Shen Yanci looked at Qin Zhao: "Zhao Zhao, you should go back and rest first. You have class tomorrow and have to get up early. I'll eat with him."

Lin Shi scoffed lightly: "We should go back early. What kind of good person would be making plans with a young girl tonight?"

"..."

Qin Zhao regretted telling Lin Shi in advance.

Shen Yanci gently rubbed her head: "Go back. Trust me."

Qin Zhao's gaze lingered between the two of them for two seconds: "You two eat properly, and don't... don't drink alcohol."

Lin Shi: "I can't drink or eat with him."

Qin Zhao: "Then I'll eat with you."

"What are you going to eat so late?" Lin Shi looked at her meaningfully, "I'm different from some people, I feel sorry for my own sister."

A complex warmth welled up in Qin Zhao's heart, and she praised, "Of course, my brother is the best. He's handsome, considerate, and he protects me."

Lin Shi hummed twice, still stubbornly insisting, "It's good that you know."

Seeing that he didn't seem to be angry or want to fight, Qin Zhao said, "Brother, I'm going back to rest now. You should rest too."

Lin Shi snorted.

Qin Zhao then looked at Shen Yanci and deliberately emphasized, "Take good care of my brother and don't drink alcohol."

She paused, then softened her tone: "Goodnight."

Shen Yanci's eyes held a hint of a smile, and his voice was low and magnetic: "Good night."

Lin Shi rolled his eyes.

One of them crossed his arms, while the other sat languidly, watching Qin Zhao enter the elevator.

Lin Shi asked expressionlessly, "What do you mean?"

Shen Yanci: "I make the choice, and I will bear the consequences."

Lin Shi frowned and looked at him.

Shen Yanci lowered his head, a resigned smile on his lips: "Lin Shi, you can't control what you like."

Lin Shi scoffed.

Shen Yanci's smile faded: "I'll treat you to something. What would you like to eat?"

Lin Shi: "I am not Qin Zhao, these tricks are useless against me."

"Stop being so narcissistic. You're not worth my tricks."

"..."

Shen Yanci: "Let's go, my car is up ahead."

"I have nothing good to offer you," Lin Shi said unmoved. "Do you know what the consequences will be if you continue to be with her?"

Shen Yanci closed his eyelids slightly: "I know, I know better than anyone else."

He raised an eyebrow and said sarcastically, "When have I ever fought back when you hit me?"

Lin Shi: "That's because you deserved a beating. Why don't you pay it back?"

Shen Yanci had nothing to say.

He raised an eyebrow: "So, you won't have the chance to beat me up anymore."

"What are you worried about? If I bully Qin Zhao, won't you beat me to death?"

Lin Shi: "I'll definitely beat you to death."

"it is good."

"..." Lin Shi: "I didn't agree!"

After he finished speaking, he called the driver and asked him to come and pick him up.

Shen Yanci put her arm around his shoulder: "Let's go."

He looked at Lin Shi and said, "Even though I'm Zhao Zhao's boyfriend, I've also been your buddy for twenty years. Can't we even have a meal together?"

Lin Shi: "It's not certain whether this guy can make it. If the boat in front sinks, the one behind definitely won't survive."

“Then let’s move forward together.” Shen Yanci lifted his eyelids slightly. “Wouldn’t it be great if the three of us were a family, brother?”

"roll!"

Lin Shi eventually got into Shen Yanci's car and sat in the back seat.

Shen Yanci looked at him through the rearview mirror: "Thanks."

Lin Shi looked at him as if he were a lunatic.

Shen Yanci closed his eyelids slightly: "Tell me about Zhaozhao."

Lin Shi: "What are you thanking me for? I told you it's a golden headband, but you insisted on wearing it. You'll have to endure the pain even if it kills you."

Shen Yanci: "I just want to become a Buddha."

Lin Shi scoffed, "My parents might not agree."

Shen Yanci raised an eyebrow, her tone slightly raised: "Isn't that what you're here for?"

"..."

Lin Shi knew he couldn't get in his car: "Stop the car, or I'll jump!"

"..."
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When Qin Zhao met Lin Jianwei, she was unsure whether to bring Shen Yanci along.

Lin Jianwei was always very understanding of her. She first understood her concerns and then indicated that this was a very positive sign. She then provided a detailed analysis of the pros and cons of "bringing your partner to see the therapist."

Finally, a compromise was proposed: Qin Zhao would have a private talk with her first to address all her concerns, rehearse and plan ahead to ensure she could control the process and pace.

Shen Yanci had a private meeting with Lin Jianwei, allowing him to ask questions freely, while Lin Jianwei provided educational support. This helped him understand Qin Zhao's state, clarify behavioral boundaries, and manage his own emotions so he could better support Qin Zhao.

The third joint meeting.

Lin Chien-wei repeatedly emphasized: "The focus of the talks is on skills training and building consensus, not on digging into your trauma history."

After the meeting, assess the feelings about the meeting and decide whether and when to hold the next one.

Qin Zhao: "I don't want to appear as a patient in front of him."

After understanding her concerns, Lin Jianwei quickly redefined the talks as an allies training session.

The goal of the talks was to transform Shen Yanci from a “helpless partner” into a “knowledgeable and reliable ally.”

Furthermore, Qin Zhao's subjectivity was repeatedly emphasized; her role was that of the leader and expert, and she set all the rules and definitions of comfort.

Lin Jianwei, as a coach and translator, provides Shen Yanci with tools, not labels.

Shen Yanci was merely an ally, there to learn how to get along with Qin Zhao.

Her image is not that of a patient, but rather a powerful communicator, a clear leader (guiding him on how to love Qin Zhao), and a courageous person.

Lin Jianwei: "This is not about showing weakness, but about showing strength."

"Of course, therapy can still proceed without him. It will just be slower because you'll need to process all your emotions before relaying them to him. The final decision is entirely yours. Which method do you feel safer with?"

"..."

When Qin Zhao was on a date with Shen Yanci, he casually asked, "Are you free on Saturday afternoon?"

"Yes, what's wrong?"

Qin Zhao cracked his knuckles: "I need to go to the consultation room. Will you come with me?"

Shen Yanci's fingers tightened slightly: "Yes."

When Shen Yanci accompanied Qin Zhao for the first time, they did not go into the consultation room, but sat in the coffee shop outside.

The second time, he met with Lin Jianwei alone. He mainly asked questions, and Lin Jianwei answered them and provided guidance. He obtained the principles and behavioral guidelines.

His code of conduct has six modules.

Absolutely respect the rhythm.

Ask her beforehand, observe her physical signals during the process, and listen and thank her without judgment afterward.

Believe her, don't ignore safe words!

Do not try to reason with her when she is emotional; do not apply pressure, be her stable "anchor" and safety officer.

Zero-evaluation attitude: Create a stress-free environment.

Managing one's own emotions: Taking care of one's own mindset is the foundation for providing support.

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