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Chapter 1195 Goro's Theory of Love (Part 1)

Jiang Wengao, who was initially skeptical, sat up straight as soon as he was drawn in by this strange argument.

"How is that possible?! Even if you feel that the person you have a crush on doesn't like you back, you wouldn't go looking for someone else, would you?!" Jiang Wengao questioned in shock.

"No, no, no, sometimes girls' minds are just so hard to understand, especially those girls who care more about inner qualities than outer appearance, they are more likely to have these strange thoughts." Goro Kirigakure leaned back in his chair, adopting the posture of a seasoned expert.

Jiang Wengao was skeptical. Although his reason told him it was impossible, his curiosity compelled him to continue listening. A thought naturally arose in his mind: even if what Fatty said was nonsense, he would let him smell it and judge it.

"Then tell me, what exactly is the principle behind it!"

"Hehe, first of all, you need to know that a girl, especially a very outstanding one who has no shortage of suitors, values ​​a person's inner qualities and overall character more when it comes to dating."

Because the large number of suitors provides them with too many options, handsome men, rich men, or dancers and musicians don't catch their eye. They're easily surprised by what they see, but once they've seen it all, it's just another face in the crowd.

Therefore, this type of girl places more emphasis on a feeling! And if a man gives her this strong feeling, she is very likely to fall in love with him at first sight and regard him as the only one in the world.

Of course, this is definitely a delusion that the girl was hypnotizing herself, but this situation is indeed real, and that is why they would never pursue a man without absolute certainty.

Why? Because if you confess your feelings and get rejected, you'll lose the chance to be friends.

When an ordinary person is rejected, they might think, "There are plenty of fish in the sea, why hang on to one tree?" But for a woman with such extremely high standards, the other person is already the only one she likes from a huge sample, so she doesn't dare to take any risks!
Therefore, out of fear of even the slightest possibility of rejection, many of them will only keep hinting at their feelings, but they simply don't dare to muster the courage to confess and pursue the other person bravely.

After Kirigakure Goro finished speaking, he raised an eyebrow and clicked his tongue, as if to say: Did you understand? How was what I said? Did it enlighten you and make things clear?

Not only Jiang Wengao, but even Xia Shou felt that although the whole thing was nonsense, it wasn't all rotten; there was something to it.

As for Xiao Gao... when Xia Shou observed him, his expression was that of a typical deceived person who had been tricked.

He stroked his chin, pondered for a long time, and then cautiously asked the question.

This time, Xiao Gao's attitude was noticeably more cautious. He wasn't as skeptical as before, but rather showed a more humble willingness to learn.

"What you said does...make a bit of a point! But I still can't fully understand it. Not confessing is one thing, but finding a substitute is just too outrageous, isn't it? I don't think girls would joke about their feelings."

"NO! NO! NO!" Goro Kirigakure slowly shook his head, raising his index finger in denial, while glancing smugly at Natsumori, his eyes seeming to say: Did you hear that? Your fat brother still has real skills, unlike you newbie! Learn from me! Aren't you going to flatter me a bit?

Xia Shou sneered: "Go on, I'm listening."

"Hmph, you two listen up! It's actually quite simple. Although women may not dare to make a move on their crushes, their desire to be with them doesn't diminish. It's a bit like the 'Diary Law' of us superhumans."

Therefore, they will choose similar alternatives that they are not satisfied with, partly to experience the comfort brought by the similarity between the other person and the person they like, and partly to practice how to get along with the other person.

You don't understand, do you?

Let me give you a compassionate example. Soldiers practice shooting at targets, but the targets are very different from real people. Why do soldiers practice shooting at targets? It's because at least they can practice.

On the battlefield, you only have one life; once you die, it's gone. For girls like that, the opportunity is also only once, so of course they should choose a training partner.

Just like soldiers choose targets that resemble real people, then moving targets, and then teammates with blank rounds—the more similar they are, the better the training effect—it's the same in love. Naïve girls always think that this kind of training can increase their combat power in the final battle and successfully capture the target in one fell swoop.

However, what you said, Xiao Gao, is also true. Although they will look for substitutes, they don't dare to really do it. They always keep their distance. They want to try dating, but their way of getting along with the substitutes is always very awkward.

Have you ever heard of avoidant personality disorder? It's when someone tries to establish a romantic relationship or move things forward, but then avoids it.

Psychologists say it's due to low self-esteem and insecurity, but actually it's the reason I just mentioned: they see their current romantic partner as a substitute, and the substitute serves as practice. They only focus on the process of increasing intimacy. Once the other person actually agrees to the relationship, it's like hitting the bullseye, so it's meaningless and they need to find a new target.

Therefore, people with avoidant attachment styles generally have a perfect, dream lover template that they absolutely approve of, and dating such a person is the most pitiful thing.

However, many women genuinely fall in love with the target during this practice. The reason is that there is no truly irreplaceable and unique person in the world; they are simply deceiving themselves into believing they are. Therefore, once they actually try to understand similar alternatives, they lose their initial allure for their original ideal.

"I see!" Jiang Wengao suddenly realized.

Goro Kirigakure became even more smug: "Of course I don't recommend doing this. This kind of training is often unnecessary and can easily lead to self-destruction, which is very bad. The best way is to find someone like me who has been through it all."

Only a true master of love can guide a newcomer to the world of romance, just as a young fisherman just setting sail needs a veteran to lead him, and a novice ninja needs a teacher.

"Xiao Gao, if you ever have any questions about relationships in the future, feel free to ask me anytime. I'll analyze it for you for free!"

"I'm not in a relationship right now, but I might really need to trouble you, Fatty, in the future." Jiang Wengao smiled, with a hint of restrained excitement, looking like a victim of a failed investment who had finally found a real goldmine.

Xia Shou couldn't stand it anymore and reminded him, "Xiao Gao, don't lend Fatty money to you!"

"Xia, what are you saying! I... am I that kind of person?!"

(End of this chapter)