I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

Next person.

Ding~
"Hey bro."

It's a girl.

Lin Feng: "What's wrong? What problem did you encounter?"

Woman: "It's just some problems with the children's education."

Lin Feng smiled: "You guys really think I'm a parenting expert. Okay, come on."

Woman: "My child is in fifth grade. He ranked third in the province in swimming this year and is a national second-level athlete. He should be considered a pretty good child.

But I found that I was not satisfied with his expectation.
Today, I just finished talking to him. I felt very depressed, and I knew he felt very depressed too.
Because after I talked to him, I found that my expectations of him and what he really wanted were actually not the same thing.

He told me he wished he had some playmates.

However, I hope he can stick to his studies and achieve some results.
After all, in our exam-oriented education environment, you need to achieve some results.”

Lin Feng frowned when he heard this: “Sister-in-law, you were also a child, you know that having no friends in childhood is actually a pitiful thing.

Children also have emotions. They can run around and yell with other children. That is the happiness that only children of the same age can enjoy.

It cannot be replaced by the achievements of parents.

How about you hope he can work harder and achieve better results in his studies?
But I have to say something harsh.
If forcing children can lead to success, there wouldn’t be so many failed parents and painful family relationships.”

. . . . . . .

On the barrage.

"He was already a second-level athlete in elementary school. That's awesome."

"Third in the province, and still asking for it (grin)."

"What do you mean it's OK? The child is great, okay?"

“Tiger Mom.”

"It's pitiful to have no friends in childhood.. My big brother is so warm."

"If you don't have friends in childhood, you won't have any in adulthood."

Clicked.

. . . . . .

Raymond Lam: “To think that forcing children will lead to success is a false proposition.

If you push them too hard, the children will become disgusted with learning.
Believe me, no matter how many teachers you hire for extra lessons, his grades will not improve.

You are talking about the general environment of exam-oriented education. You have to work hard.

The child didn’t ask you for anything, right?

Why don’t other students have to follow the exam-oriented education?

He went abroad to study directly and attended a prestigious university.

Why can people be directly selected for targeted positions after they return?
Why can other parents provide such good conditions for their children?

sister in law,

He didn't compare you with his classmates' parents.

Don't tell me that none of his classmates' parents are better than yours.
Definitely.
And there are so many.

The key is that the child’s demands are not excessive.

He is only in fifth grade and he needs some playmates.

Moreover, he has clearly expressed his wish to you, but you ignored him and insisted on forcing him to study at the desk.
Do you think he will learn it?"

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"I don't expect my children to fly to the sky (grin)."

“Why can’t parents just follow their children’s hearts? (Alas)”

“Think about yourself back then.”

"It is a false proposition that forcing children will lead to success. That's a very good point (thumbs-up)."

“Because even if you gain results in the end, you may lose more.”

"I am just a failure that my father forced me to be (crying to death)."

. . . . . .

Lin Feng: "Sister-in-law, this is my advice to you.

You can actually relax a little bit, kid. He is interested in learning.

Don't push him too hard. He can actually work hard step by step.

On the contrary, learning is a long-term process.

Some people feel tired in the later stages because they have dug too much in the early stages and have reached the bottom. They then become disgusted with learning.
The rote learning made him dizzy just by sitting at the desk. "

Woman: "But the situation is that all the kids his age in our community have a lot of homework. Even if he goes out to play, he can't find a playmate."

Stop, stop.

Lin Feng knocked on the blackboard and interrupted, “I’m not your child, you don’t have to convince me.

What does it mean there are no children living downstairs in the community?

Only you live in a residential area, and we all live in the countryside, right?

Not all parents are like you, locking their children at home to study all day long.

Take a look at the neighborhood and you will see that there are not many children. But as long as there are people gathering together and shouting, there are still people coming out to play.

There are still some parents who will let their children play outside and know how to respect and understand their children.

There are even some in the surrounding communities.
But as long as you don't let him go, he will never have it."

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"I'm not your child, you don't have to convince me, hahaha."

"My eldest brother was too lazy to explain to her (grin)."

"If you don't put him down, he will never have a playmate. The eldest brother hit the nail on the head and said the essence directly."

"My son travels around the neighborhood with just a watch (covering his face and laughing)." "There is a basketball court downstairs in the neighborhood. My son is almost always the first one to go downstairs to play basketball. He can gather a group of friends in no time."

"She actually knew there were children in the community, but she felt that those who didn't do their homework and played outside were not good children (dog head)."

Clicked.

. . . . . .

Lin Feng: "You come up to ask me questions, I tell you that children are not forced out, and I have already told you a clear set of ideas,

It’s up to you whether to accept it or not.

There is no need for us to convince each other.”

The woman was silent for a while and then said, "Actually, what you said is right. When I force my child, I should actually force myself to give him more resources."

Lin Feng nodded: "The fact that you can listen to me means you can still be saved.

Relax a little, sister-in-law.

Many times we should cherish the time when our children are still able to open up to us, communicate with us, and stay with us.

If you can give your child a warm childhood and a loving environment, believe me, he will not do badly.

On the contrary, when a child feels this kind of love, he will make efforts spontaneously.

You are like the gate of our community.

Brother Shui should know,

There was a gluten shop that I remember very clearly. The couple had a child.
The children help out at the stall after school, and when customers come, they also help serve dishes. "

Brother Shui nodded, "I know."

Raymond Lam: "When there were no customers, the child would find a corner to do his homework. At night, when his parents closed the stall very late, the child would sleep under the barbecue stall.

There is a shelf underneath where the child sleeps.

Do you think they work hard?
But every time I passed by, I saw happy smiles on the children's faces.

Children are like this, they don’t care whether their parents are rich or not, or whether they can buy them toys.

When he was a child, he was happy to do anything with his parents.

When the stall is closed in the evening, they grill some more for themselves, and the three of them sit there and have a midnight snack. Dad drinks a beer and rides his tricycle back home, feeling very happy.

Can you say that other people’s children are bad children?”

The woman was silent.

. . . . . . .

On the barrage.

"I thought it was a high school student, but he clicked in to talk about children's education, and he spoke so well (amazingly)."

"What a heartwarming story! Big brother is so awesome! It made me cry."

"My eldest brother once said that children's happiness points are very low."

"Children must learn to feel love when they are young, and not be too utilitarian, otherwise parents will only suffer the consequences."

"Don't be a disappointing parent, and your son won't be a disappointing son in the future. You are like a mirror. If you are harsh on him, he will be harsh on you in the future."

reasonable!

. . . . . .

Raymond Lam: "Listen to my sister-in-law, don't deliberately let your child suffer, because the child will have to suffer in the future, he can't escape any of it.

When it's time to go to work, I get scolded by my boss.

When you are in love, you will be embarrassed by your father-in-law and mother-in-law.

The wife complains that he has no money and no ability, and the son complains that his father is useless.

Faced with cars, houses, and a series of other family problems, he will suffer much more in the future, and he will not be able to escape any of them.

Then you might as well let him have a happy childhood. At least when he faces these setbacks in the future, he will still have some strength in his heart.

He knows that family is a harbor where he can go home to rest and recharge when he is tired.

Mom and Dad have prepared the braised pork. When you get home, they won’t ask you about your performance or how much you earned this year.
Anyway, you have a warm meal when you go home, and your parents think you are great.

At least I recall my childhood as a happy one.

Otherwise, when he should be playing with other kids, you force him to study and do all kinds of things.
After much effort, he finally got it out, and he listened to you and what you said.
Just like what teachers often say, if you work hard in elementary school, you can get into a good junior high school and it will be easy.

In junior high school, I said that if I worked hard and got into a good high school, everything would be easy.
In high school, I was told that if I worked hard, everything would be easy when I got to college.

The university also said that if you work hard, things will be easy when you get a job.

As a result, he found that he still had no chance to catch his breath after working.

Boss squeeze
Everyday fuck 996
Looking back, home is not his haven. It seems that he has never enjoyed his life at all.

It’s over.

The fucking sky is falling."

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[Military Advisor’s Comments: So what is the end of the road?
Yes. . .

Just get into high school.
Just get into undergraduate school.
Just pass level 4 or 6.

Just pass the postgraduate entrance examination.

Just finish reading the book.

The internship is over.

It would be nice to have a job.

Just pass the exam and get the compilation.
It would be nice if the job is stable.

It's fine if you get married.

It would be nice to have children.
Retirement is good.

It will be fine once the disease is cured. . . .

Facts have proved that the end of the road is still a road! 】(End of this chapter)