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Chapter 477 Did you not receive many gifts growing up?

Even though the body cannot perceive the movement of the sand, the brain assumes that the visitor does.

This is a mindfulness-like state.

Getting into this state is quite difficult.

Nan Zhuren had originally thought that if the visitor bluntly said "I can't feel the sand," then he might have to use some methods to guide him.

At the very least, you should complete the entire "self-soothing landing" practice process.

The best-case scenario right now is that visitors can "feel" it themselves.

Nan Zhuren continued to guide them, saying, "Okay, the sand in the hourglass has now run out. Next, you can gently rub the hourglass with your hands and try to feel its texture, its shape, and its material."

Once you're in the zone, the next step is to "soothe yourself and land"—put your body first.

The delicate touch can always provide people with the most direct physiological comfort.

The visitor's expression gradually calmed down.

"Have you ever touched sand?" Nan Zhuren suddenly asked.

“I’ve touched it,” the visitor replied. “I’ve been to the beach; and when I was in elementary school, my favorite thing to do was to build sandcastles in the long jump pit.”

great.

“Okay.” Nan Zhuren joked first, “The sand in this hourglass is carefully selected, it’s definitely the best sand from the beach or sandpits.”

Immediately afterwards, Nan Zhuren's voice became lower, deeper, and steady.

It evoked a sense of remoteness.

"Okay, now let's imagine these fine, soft, possibly cool but also slightly warm sands slowly flowing out of an hourglass."

Nan Zhuren stared at the visitor: "What kind of feeling do you think they should give you when they touch your palm?"

The visitor thought about it for a moment.

“...It might be a little cold,” the visitor replied.

"why?"

"Because the sand we used to play in was always cold."

As he spoke, the visitor slightly curled the corners of his mouth.

great.

Seeing the visitor's obvious change in expression, Nan Zhuren immediately seized the opportunity: "Can you imagine a scene from when you used to play in the sand?"

Now, we are on the second step of "self-soothing landing"—instantly binding positive emotions.

In this step, the counselor needs to capture the fragments of positive memories that spontaneously emerge in the client, and then reinforce this positive imprint through multiple senses.

The way to enhance this memory is to enrich the details—what you saw, touched, heard, and so on in this memory.

Guided by Nan Zhuren, the visitor slowly recalled: "The scene of playing in the sand must have been a long time ago, when I was in elementary school."

"After school, I would play with my close friends. Sometimes we would have sand fights, sometimes we would build sandcastles, and sometimes we would just dig in the sand without any purpose..."

“Back then, everyone was able to laugh so much…” The visitor let out a long sigh, leaned back against his chair, and said, “…carefree.”

This is the effect you want.

Is this laughter safe?

“Of course, it’s safe,” the visitor replied.

well.

Nan Zhuren's voice became slightly clearer, but not enough to wake someone up: "Okay, Zhihao, now I need you to grab the hourglass in your hand—grab it, grab it tightly, squeeze it."

At this point, we have reached the third step of the "self-soothing landing" process—body dynamics shaping.

Once this step is completed, the visitor will be able to use a unique physical movement, combined with a combination of senses, to form a conditioned reflex.

When danger signals appear, the visitor is able to initiate action in time, switch neural patterns, and extricate themselves from the negative state. "Then, place the hand that is clenching the hourglass on your chest and repeat one sentence with me—'Here, I am safe.'"

The visitor did as instructed:

“Here, I am… safe.”

"do it again."

“I am safe here.”

“Very good.” Nan Zhuren nodded. “Zhihao, remember these three codes—the coldness of the palm, the safe smile of childhood, and the tight grip in your hand. The next time you fall into unsettling memories, do the same thing as now, recall these three codes, and you will be able to feel safe.”

"Now you can open your eyes."

My vision was rekindled.

The visitor blinked.

He heard Nan Zhuren say, "This hourglass is for you; its size is perfect for making a necklace pendant."

This is the fourth and final step of the "self-soothing landing" process—the transformation into a reality-based vehicle.

By imbuing ordinary objects with symbolic meaning, they can become a source of security.

……

Both "self-soothing landing" and "mental landing" involve multi-sensory tasks, but their forms and functions are different.

[Mental Landing] Activates multi-sensory tasks with the aim of collecting information from the outside world and seizing one's own cognitive and emotional resources by processing this information.

[Self-soothing landing] Activate multi-sensory tasks to recall details of positive scenes that arise within yourself, thereby generating a healing effect.

A complete grounding technology utilizes these three landing methods.

By utilizing the action of "body landing," one can seize a controllable breakthrough from a jumble of emotions.

Then, use the "mental landing" approach as a breakthrough to seize cognitive resources.

Finally, use the "self-soothing landing" technique, leveraging the acquired cognitive resources to connect with positive emotions and generate a healing effect.

Of course, the goal is good.

But even Nan Zhuren cannot say that healed a person using only this one technique.

It will take about one to two months for Nan Zhuren to continuously train his clients so that they can skillfully use the "grounding technique" to combat their own "memory flashbacks".

The process was then gradually simplified, since this triple landing process takes quite a bit of time.

……

"You gave it to me?"

Right now, the visitor looked at the small hourglass that Nan Zhuren handed over, moved his fingers, but did not reach out.

"Is this your personal item, teacher? Or is it something that everyone in your counseling room gives out when training this technique...?"

This desk was left by the previous owner of Nan Zhuren's desk; it was there as soon as Nan Zhuren arrived.

Nan Zhuren brought it along because he thought it would be perfect for today's practice.

"I'd consider it my personal property," Nan Zhuren said with a smile.

"Thank you, teacher." The visitor accepted the gift solemnly.

Seeing that expression, Nan Zhuren blinked. Young man, you're not the kind of person who's never received many gifts from others since you were a child, are you?

At the same time, Nan Zhuren looked at the wall clock.

The time had progressed by about half an hour.

Most of the time has passed, but there is still a considerable amount of wealth.

(End of this chapter)