Who would study psychology if they didn't have some kind of problem?

Chapter 405 It's Not Just One Person's Business

What I just said were things that Li Minglu and Nan Zhuren had said before.

But something new has clearly happened this week.

That's why Li Minglu is currently in this hesitant state in front of him.

At this point, Nan Zhuren finally spoke up and provided guidance:
"Has something different happened that has given you a new feeling?"

Li Minglu slightly curled the corners of his mouth at Nan Zhuren's question.

"Teacher Nan, you really did spot it at a glance."

Li Minglu nodded: "Some new things did happen this week..."

At this point, Li Minglu paused slightly, clearly needing to gather some strength before revealing what he was about to say.

Fortunately, Li Minglu has always been a person with strong internal motivation.

After a three-breath pause, Li Minglu said, "Teacher Nan, you know, right? Although Xiaosui and I are separated now, it's just to let everyone calm down. After all, what happened before was something we should think about how to proceed. But that doesn't mean our feelings... are not good."

Nan Zhuren nodded in affirmation: "Yes, you told me that."

Li Minglu continued, "Xiaosui has actually been actively trying to make changes during this period, but it may not have been very smooth."

“She had previously enrolled in a course for a psychological counselor certificate and studied for a while, but later I heard from a professor at Jiangnan University that the certificate would be canceled after a while. After I told Xiaosui, she decided not to take the exam.”

Nan Zhuren nodded.

He had also heard rumors that the impending cancellation of the professional qualification certificate for psychological counselors was a major event.

Because this exam is only a written test and is very easy, it's like you only need to spend a month memorizing questions to get a professional qualification certificate, and then you can call yourself a "psychological counselor" and start taking on consultations.

This has led to a mixed bag of good and bad in the industry, and exacerbated the stigma surrounding psychological counseling.

Subsequently, a decision was made to cancel the relevant qualification certificates.

"After failing the exam, Xiaosui used her connections to enroll in a course to learn psychological counseling techniques. Anyway, I know what she was thinking. She felt that she didn't understand my situation before, so she wanted to understand me better."

“Every time she comes to see me, she tells me what new things she has learned recently. She is not just putting on an act; she really wants to change herself.”

Objectively speaking, Wang Sui's change is a positive trend.

“I also think it’s a good thing,” Li Minglu said, “but recently… I’ve discovered a new problem.”

Looking into Nan Zhuren's eyes, Li Minglu slowly uttered two words: "Child."

Hear these two words.

Nan Zhuren's heart sank.

“That’s right, Teacher Nan. I left home because I felt that my state of mind might affect my daughter and son. I was the one who made them unhappy at home. I thought that by leaving home, not only could I feel more at ease, but I also hoped that their state of mind would improve.”

“But…” Li Minglu pursed his lips, “things aren’t that simple.”

“I’ve been seeing my kids at least twice a week lately, taking them out to play, and listening to how they’re doing.”

Speaking of it.

Li Minglu shook his head, his face full of worry: "They're not doing well..."

“After I left home, Xiaosui’s condition was not good, even worse than before. That’s understandable.” “So, she didn’t have the energy to take care of the child.”

“When I heard from the children, the atmosphere at home was worse than when I was there.”

“When Professor Lin consulted me, he tried to sell me medication by saying that depression is contagious and may even be hereditary. After I met you, I thought he was just lying to me.”

"But now it seems... it's not without reason. Last week, seeing how my daughter was doing, I was also thinking about whether to bring her to see a teacher..."

Nan Zhuren paused for a moment.

The idea that "mental illnesses have a hereditary component" does indeed have some scientific basis.

Scientists have conducted studies on family clustering and found that the incidence of mental illnesses such as schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, and autism spectrum disorder is significantly higher among first-degree relatives of patients than in the general population.

There are also twin studies that compare the comorbidity rates of identical twins and fraternal twins, finding that the comorbidity rate of identical twins is significantly higher than that of fraternal twins.

This is why many organizations require employees to fill in a section on "Family History of Mental Illness" when creating employee files.

Of course, the statement that "mental illnesses are hereditary" is neither simplistic nor absolute.

Different mental illnesses manifest differently in family genealogies and should not be confused.

Just like how both "high vertebral fracture" and "ankle sprain" require orthopedic treatment, these two are clearly different.

Meanwhile, scientists have also suggested that in addition to genes, the family environment that leads to mental illness is a key factor in the heritability of mental illness.

For example, in adoption studies, scientists have found that children of people with mental illness who are adopted have a lower incidence of mental illness than children who grew up with their biological parents who also have mental illness. At the same time, children without a family history of mental illness who grow up in families without a family history of mental illness have a lower incidence of mental illness than children who grow up in adoptive families with a family history of mental illness.

From this perspective.

Li Minglu's considerations were not without merit.

He continued, "I understand that Xiaosui is under a lot of pressure. I also considered bringing the child over, partly to give the child a change of environment and partly to help Xiaosui share some of the burden. Now it seems that I was being too irresponsible."

“But I live with my friends now, and we’re all single… It wouldn’t be convenient to let a child in, it would be too much trouble for everyone.”

"Besides, we can bring our son over, but what about our daughter? Obviously, that won't work. And if we separate the two children, leaving one all alone at home, wouldn't the situation be worse than it is now?"

"Of course, I did consider having my father-in-law and mother-in-law take care of the child, but they..." Li Minglu smiled slightly as he said this.

It wasn't the kind of laugh that was really good.

Everything is unspoken.

Li Minglu held his face in his hands and let out a long sigh.

"This is what's been happening to me in the last week. I've been troubled by it for the past few days, and personally, I feel..."

Li Minglu tried to find the right words to describe his current situation, but after a long while, he just shook his head.

"It's just very uncomfortable and annoying."

He looked up at Nan Zhuren, a hint of expectation in his eyes.

"Teacher Nan, what do you think I should do now?"

(End of this chapter)