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Chapter 394 [Mindful Eating Training]

After hearing Xu Pengcheng's answer...

Nan Zhuren smiled with satisfaction.

The performances of Lin Junkai and Li Mingchen are considered his trump card for today.

The order in which the cards are played is very important.

He deliberately waited until the very end of the consultation to play this card, in order to wait until Xu Pengcheng had already established a deep counseling relationship with him and Xu Pengcheng was already caught in cognitive conflict.

Playing this card too early would not only have no effect now, but might even have had no effect at all.

Now, this real-world factor can serve as a solid bridge, forcefully pressing down on Xu Pengcheng's confused and conflicting thoughts, and guiding him in the right direction.

It must be said that many changes in clients cannot be achieved in the consultation room.

The impact of reality on visitors far exceeds the influence that a therapist can exert on visitors in the consultation room.

Nan Zhuren built the road like an architect, brick by brick and beam by beam, but in the end, it was Lin Junkai and his group who were the real factors that propelled Xu Pengcheng's growth.

It's very effective.

However, it may appear very unprofessional to professionals.

[Never mind, as long as it benefits the visitor within ethical boundaries, that's fine.]

Nan Zhuren thought to himself.

However, such situations are rare. Nan Zhuren is rarely able to intervene in the client's actual situation, and he is also rarely able to use real-world factors to help the client.

It's unlikely that we'll have this kind of opportunity again in the future.

……

After Xu Pengcheng said "no".

He did not give a simple closed-ended answer, but went on to explain and elaborate.

“Jun Kai and the others helped me with extra training at the beginning – they really helped me train and wanted to help me improve my physical fitness.”

"However, as the other people's actions gradually became more aggressive and Coach Wang became more and more fierce, they stopped coming over."

“Even when Coach Wang specifically asks them to do extra training for me, they try to keep their movements as small as possible.”

Nan Zhuren nodded.

"In your memory, they were 'friendly' to you, which is more in line with the definition of 'friend'."

Xu Pengcheng nodded.

"At the same time, they understand you better."

Xu Pengcheng nodded.

“So we can see—” Nan Zhuren spread his hands, making a demonstration gesture, “that understanding your ‘friends’ doesn’t actually require you to build relationships through ‘excessive dieting’ and ‘bullied-style extra training’.”

“They were there from the beginning.”

"And the other 'teammates,' no matter how many times you repeat those two behaviors, don't seem to change their own behavior or their opinion of you."

Xu Pengcheng blinked.

First came a period of thought that lasted ten breaths.

During this process, Xu Pengcheng's breathing became increasingly heavy.

Subsequently.

He let out a long sigh of relief, but his body did not go limp.

The breath he exhaled wasn't the release of his internal strength, but rather as if he were spitting out something that had been pent up for a long time.

With that exhale, he first slumped his shoulders and lowered his head. Then he fell backward forcefully, sinking into the sofa.

With one hand resting on his thigh and the other on his stomach, he displayed a relaxed posture.

He looked directly into Nan Zhuren's eyes.

"That seems to be the case," Xu Pengcheng said, sighing as he spoke.

His face showed distress and regret, but the corners of his mouth were slightly upturned, no longer the forced smile.

This was the most expressive face he had made during his consultation today.

...Nan Zhuren breathed a sigh of relief.

The intervention based on the humanistic principle ends here.

This kind of approach—constantly following the visitor and supporting them step by step—is really exhausting.

"Your recounting of the past also points to a key point. You know that it was 'Coach Wang becoming increasingly fierce' that led to all the changes."

Xu Pengcheng twitched the corner of his mouth.

Nan Zhuren smiled and said, "This understanding is correct. And now your training environment has also changed. Without Coach Wang, I believe your relationship with your teammates can also have a new development and a new beginning."

"but--"

Nan Zhuren looked directly into Xu Pengcheng's eyes: "Pengcheng, 'Making friends' is a two-way street. There's no reason why 'you have to be friends'."

"If you feel that some of your teammates understand you, then you can become friends with them, seek their friendship, and feel guilty for causing them trouble—presumably they will also hope that you understand them, they will also want your friendship, and feel guilty for causing you trouble."

"But for others, whether it's incompatibility or personality clashes—in short, perhaps you're not really suited to be friends."

"Then it's enough to keep your relationship as 'teammates,' or even 'classmates training in the same team.'"

Xu Pengcheng looked into Nan Zhuren's eyes and nodded thoughtfully.

When it comes to this.

Sudden.

Gollum—

A sound echoed in the consultation room.

Nan Zhuren looked at Xu Pengcheng's stomach.

Xu Pengcheng's hand, which was resting on his stomach, tightened suddenly.

"Hungry?" Nan Zhuren asked with a smile.

Xu Pengcheng pursed his lips and nodded.

"Would you like something to eat?"

Xu Pengcheng hesitated for a moment, then nodded.

【frown.】

[His gaze was unfocused.]

There was no throat or swallowing-like reflex.

……

The cognitive issues of Xu Pengcheng were resolved.

In theory, his craving for "excessive dieting" has also disappeared.

However, just like Li Minglu before him, although his practical and cognitive problems have been resolved, the mental illness with physical effects will not immediately lead to physical recovery simply because the mental illness is cured.

Xu Pengcheng's "excessive dieting" has become a habit, even a physical memory.

Even though Xu Pengcheng now has the idea of ​​"not dieting", when faced with food, he may still need to eat in a deliberate way, or even force himself to eat little by little.

He will need some training to break free from this habit of living.

Nan Zhuren looked at the clock on the wall.

It has been more than half an hour, almost forty minutes, now.

It's not that we can't strike while the iron is hot and intervene in Xu Pengcheng's eating habits.

This was also the original purpose of Nan Zhuren's consultation today.

"Perfect timing, we still have a little time today."

Nan Zhuren stood up and said, "Let's do something more interesting next."

Xu Pengcheng looked up curiously.

Nan Zhuren said, "I call it 'Mindful Eating Training'."

(End of this chapter)