Who would study psychology if they didn't have some kind of problem?

Chapter 210 Other Things

"Wait...wait a minute, Professor Nan, I heard that the person who counseled Xiao Jie was a professor from the psychology department..."

The visitor looked like he was overloaded with CPU.

"That was my advisor when I was a graduate student in the psychology department."

Nan Zhuren slowed down his speech and lowered his voice.

To maximize one's ability to soothe emotions, so that while calming the visitor's emotions, one can also ensure that the visitor can clearly hear one's narration.

“In the early stages, Chen Jie was treated and intervened by my mentor. Later, Chen Jie’s condition improved, and I took over her care.”

“At the time, we all thought she was ready to break free from psychological intervention and start living independently. But then… the unexpected happened.”

Nan Zhuren recounts the stories about Chen Jie and himself from his own perspective.

As Cheng Hui listened to the story, she suddenly sensed a sadness between the lines.

It stems from the sorrow emanating from Nan Zhuren.

She felt as if she were reading an ancient text like "There is a loquat tree in the courtyard," a plain and simple description, yet something tingling and numbing seeped out from it.

However, this sadness did not add to her own burden, nor did it cause her already low spirits to continue to plummet.

Instead, it was the act of lifting her up that made her feel sympathy.

It can achieve this effect.

On the one hand, this was due to Nan Zhuren's self-disclosure.

When a counselor expresses similar experiences and emotions to the client, it can bridge the gap between them and produce a healing effect.

Thanks to the +3 "emotional contagion" effect, Cheng Hui was able to genuinely feel Nan Zhuren's emotions, at least in terms of emotional connection.

Meanwhile, Nan Zhuren's honesty at this moment, in response to Cheng Hui's current behavior of "excessive self-blame," is a very clever way of "shifting responsibility."

After all, compared to Chen Jie's roommate, "Chen Jie's psychological counselor" is the party with a higher priority in being held accountable in the "Chen Jie's death" incident.

This is also an important reason why Nan Zhuren chose to confess to Cheng Hui at this time, in order to have a healing effect on Cheng Hui.

……

really.

After listening to the story told by Nan Zhuren.

Although Cheng Hui was affected by Nan Zhuren's sadness and felt empathy for him.

But her sobbing began to stop.

My body began to stabilize, and I leaned back against the sofa, no longer swaying.

The arms that were wrapped around the body gradually relaxed and changed to a position where they were crossed over the lower abdomen.

Nan Zhuren continued, "Actually, when I saw your name on the consultation appointment form, I immediately realized that you were Chen Jie's classmate. At that time, I wondered if the question you came to consult about was related to Chen Jie's matter."

"If so, I feel it's my responsibility and I have an obligation to solve your problem."

Nan Zhuren knew that once Cheng Hui learned of his identity, she would definitely be wary and suspicious.

For example: Did this teacher know in advance and have ulterior motives?

Now, Nan Zhuren is taking the lead in another round of self-disclosure.

It also aligns with the principle of absolute honesty in humanism, fully revealing one's thoughts and ideas.

This genuine feeling was completely conveyed to Cheng Hui through emotional connection.

Her body relaxed further, and she even began to express concern for Nan Zhuren.

"Teacher Nan... So, after Xiao Jie's, uh... 'incident' happened, did you have any problems?"

Nan Zhuren has no recollection of what happened or how she felt "after it happened".

"I can't remember," he said honestly. Cheng Hui pursed her lips.

After her sense of guilt lessened, her stress response to Chen Jie's death also decreased significantly.

Some desires that had been deliberately suppressed gradually surfaced.

"Teacher, may I ask how you all got through it afterward? Do you know anything about yourself, your mentor, or Xiaojie's parents?"

That hits the nail on the head.

Nan Zhuren took a deep breath.

“After this incident, I was expelled from the school as the person primarily responsible. After all, Chen Jie did ‘that thing’ immediately after my consultation ended, so I cannot shirk my responsibility.”

“I’m currently working at an external psychological counseling agency, but I’ve returned here to provide counseling services because of some collaborative projects. I feel very lucky to have met you.”

Nan Zhuren softened his words.

The simpler the wording, the greater the power.

Cheng Hui stared wide-eyed, covered her mouth, and gasped in disbelief.

"Chen Jie's parents... must be having a very difficult time. I don't know if they've gotten over it. I met with them once a while ago, but I'm not in a position to comment on their situation."

Nan Zhuren pursed his lips and forced a bitter smile with the corners of his mouth down.

Cheng Hui covered her mouth with her hand and began to rub harder, leaving indentations on both sides of her cheeks.

You could also see through the gaps between her fingers that she was slightly biting her lip.

"As for my mentor..." Nan Zhuren was vague.

He changed the subject: "Actually, even today I still find Chen Jie's story hard to believe. I always feel... there are some things I've overlooked, and I want to figure them out. Hearing so many stories about her from you today means a lot to me..."

Nan Zhuren smiled at Cheng Hui, which was a complete and frank statement.

He spoke sincerely, without paying any extra attention to Cheng Hui's face as he spoke.

I only glanced at her expression now and didn't see any negative or hostile emotions.

This put Nan Zhuren at ease.

“Helping you get through this is my biggest task right now,” Nan Zhuren said with a smile. “Next, let’s practice the Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) I just told you about. You can think of it as an assignment. You can use it independently when you get back to help you get out of your current emotional predicament…”

Nan Zhuren paused for a moment.

Because he noticed that Cheng Hui had fallen into a kind of silence.

[Hands placed on knees, tightened.]

[Pressing her lips together and clenching her teeth.]

Is it restraint... no, is it hesitation in making a decision that might make you uncomfortable?

“Teacher,” Cheng Hui suddenly said, “didn’t you just say that you felt there were some things you had overlooked in Xiao Jie’s case?”

Nan Zhuren hesitated for a moment, then nodded.

"You also said that her parents... are still very upset and may not have gotten over it?"

Nan Zhuren nodded again.

"actually……"

Cheng Hui slowly took out her phone.

She took a deep breath, as if gathering some courage.