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Chapter 44 Standing on the Side of Good People
The live stream chat was so normal that it startled Zhang Zhe.

Is this still Little Red Book? Aren't you all here for boxing? Why are you analyzing it so seriously, and so professionally?

Zhang Zhe even wondered if he was being stereotypical.
Actually, he didn't understand.

On Xiaohongshu (a Chinese short video platform), boxing is mainly targeted at men; women, on the other hand, show no mercy to each other.

Women are always the cruelest to women.

The matchmaking market happens to be dominated by same-sex competition.

Is it so hard to acknowledge someone else's excellence?
It's really tough in the dating market.

Acknowledging someone's excellence is tantamount to acknowledging their "priority in choosing a partner." In a matchmaking market where there are more women than men, that would be a disaster!
Grandma Xu wasn't surprised to see those comments; she knew all too well what these people were thinking.
Those who are not married but are planning to find a partner think that if they break up a couple, they can get a lot of good men in the market and maybe it will be their turn.
Those who are determined not to get married wish everyone would be like them. They not only criticize those who are married, but also advise those who are still hesitant to break up.
Some of those who are already married are jealous and can't stand seeing someone else marry better than them, so they certainly won't try to reconcile them.
Only those who are already married and have a happy marriage will truly consider others' feelings.

Grandma Xu felt that she was the last kind of person to be reborn.

So she didn't pay attention to what the comments were saying, glanced at it briefly, and then closed the live stream.

"Teacher Xu, did we disturb you?" Boss He said apologetically, "Xiao Zhang is new to the industry and sometimes speaks without thinking."

"For your trouble."

"A-Juan, don't say that." Grandma Xu shook her head and pointed at Zhang Zhe: "He's quick-witted. That girl just now was taking advantage of my bad math skills."

"I really thought she had suffered. The way she sounded so aggrieved in her words made it seem like it was a real situation."

"That girl tried to outsmart an old lady like me. It was really boring. No wonder she gave up the good man in front of her to pursue a vague and unattainable goal."

“Teacher Xu, you also think she deserved it, right?” Zhang Zhe asked.

It seemed like a question, but it was actually just following up on what Grandma Xu had said.

Hearing this, Grandma Xu chuckled and said, "Little Zhang, that's exactly what I was going to ask you."

"You weren't really supporting that girl just now, were you? Actually, you were supporting her boyfriend."

"Huh?" Zhang Zhe feigned surprise. Of course, he wouldn't admit it, otherwise he risked being attacked by the two women: "Who's her boyfriend? Do I know him?"

"I was genuinely speaking from her perspective, and it was all for her own good!"

"Slippery!" Old Mrs. Xu curled her lips: "I know you young people, there's a saying now, something like... regardless of right or wrong, you only stand on the side of your own gender."

"Teacher Xu, you know about this too?" Zhang Zhe was genuinely surprised this time.

This is a concept that has emerged in recent years, and it's what men and women like to say when they're playfully boxing each other online.

Before the truth comes out, regardless of right or wrong, let's take sides based on gender.

If they don't do this, the rational side will be at a significant disadvantage in public opinion, which could ultimately affect the outcome.

Only the mindless can fight against the mindless.

Zhang Zhe isn't like that at all; now he really needs to explain:

“I am not the kind of person you are talking about.”

"I spoke like that just now because I was considering things from the perspective of good people, and I didn't want good people to suffer losses."

“But you’re the matchmaker,” Mr. He couldn’t help but say from the side. “It’s the girl who came to consult you, not her boyfriend.”

"You definitely have to put yourself in this girl's shoes."

"Hehe." Zhang Zhe chuckled, not refuting, but looking at Old Madam Xu: "What do you think?"

Instead of immediately stating her position, Old Mrs. Xu asked in return:

"I'd like to hear what you think, Xiao Zhang?"

"What I'm thinking is..."

"I think Teacher He is the kind of person who would advise a man who has been cheated on, saying, 'It's okay. If you want to get by in life, you have to wear a green hat.'"

"Hahaha." Old Mrs. Xu laughed out loud from the side.

Zhang Zhe didn't laugh; it would have been impolite for him to do so.

"Teacher He, please don't mind me. I'm just giving an example. Imagine a married woman who has already cheated on her husband. She comes to you for advice and has to choose between a 20-year-old unemployed young man and a 40-year-old greasy and boring husband."

"You'll definitely let her continue living with her husband, right?"

“That’s right.” Mr. He readily admitted this: “I would definitely advise her to choose the more stable option.”

"So what sins did her husband commit?" Zhang Zhe asked, arms crossed. "Can you look me in the eye when you answer?" "Hmm?"

"Teacher Ho?"

Zhang Zhe left Boss He speechless after asking him so many questions.

Grandma Xu, who was standing to the side, nodded thoughtfully.

"Teacher He, let me ask one more question. The woman took your advice and went back to live with her husband, but her husband found out and, in a fit of anger, stabbed her to death."

"Whose fault is it that she died?"

“The problem lies with her husband.” Boss He finally had a chance to speak: “There’s no way to defend a criminal like that, is there? Cheating isn’t a capital offense!”

"But what if she had already drafted the divorce agreement and was just waiting to sign it before consulting you?"

"This... I don't know either." Mr. He was getting impatient when asked, "Who knows what will happen when you run into someone like this?"

"If we let her go see her younger boyfriend, what if he gets tired of her and dumps her?"

"She deserved it," Zhang Zhe said calmly. "Cheating and then being dumped, what a reasonable plot."

"That's why I say we should stand on the side of the good people."

"That way, no matter what happens in the future, at least I can get past this hurdle."

"Teacher Xu, what do you think?"

"I……"

"Sigh—" Old Mrs. Xu wanted to say something, but her thoughts were too many, and in the end, it turned into a long sigh.

The three of them remained silent for a long while.

There are now differing opinions on how to be a matchmaker.

Zhang Zhe and He Juan have completely different stances. If the person seeking advice is a normal person, then there is no problem at all.

However, when dealing with a client who has their own flaws, the two people's advice may be completely opposite.

The problem is that there are quite a few women seeking advice with questions in the current dating market.

In the end, it was Grandma Xu, the elder, who stepped in to smooth things over.

She smiled and said to Mr. He, "We're getting old. Young people these days have their own ideas. You can see from the comments in the live stream that many young people think the same way he does."

"Maybe online dating should be done the way he says."

"But we don't need to doubt ourselves. In real life, we should still advise reconciliation rather than separation..."

"Is it because persuading them to reconcile carries the least risk?" Zhang Zhe couldn't help but ask after Old Mrs. Xu finished speaking, "If you try to persuade them to separate, won't you be easily chased down and verbally abused?"

"Yes." The two women gave a wry smile at the same time.

In fact, it wasn't just about chasing and cursing; in earlier years, there were even people who came to our door with knives, shouting threats of violence.

These old-fashioned matchmakers didn't develop this habit of "flattering clients" overnight.

It's all been gradually adjusted over the years to this point.

"Understood." Zhang Zhe nodded.

Although I understand, I neither support nor learn from it.

He now feels confident.

When Zhang Zhe and Grandma Xu disagreed, he wondered if matchmakers, like lawyers, had unspoken rules in the industry, such as always siding with the client.

It seems not now.

Even though Grandma Xu, a senior member of the matchmaking association, didn't point out any mistakes in his words, it shows that matchmakers don't really have that many unspoken rules.

Come to think of it, how much do lawyers earn compared to how much do matchmakers earn?

To make matchmakers act against their conscience, they should be changed to charge a percentage of the total value of the "bride price + three gold items" or "dowry," just like lawyers.

Otherwise, there would be no need to fawn over customers.

Not to mention that Zhang Zhe's matchmaking consultation was completely free.

(End of this chapter)