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Chapter 40 Focus on Your Career, Marriage Isn't for You

Thirty years ago, having multiple children was still quite common in rural families.

People back then had a belief: having more brothers and sisters meant they could support each other.

However, since the implementation of the one-child policy, families with more than three children have become extremely rare. This young lady is even more remarkable, having four younger brothers and sisters.

How old are your younger siblings?

My younger sister is in first grade, and my younger brother just started kindergarten.

"There's such a big age gap between us?" Zhang Zhe was a little surprised.

The two girls are already 22 years old, and the oldest sister is only 7? It sounds like they've been having a lot of babies since the two-child policy was implemented.
The two-child policy was introduced in 2016, making it a total of nine and a half years now.

Excluding the year and a half of pregnancy, her age was just right.

It's estimated that this family initially just wanted a second child, a son. In the Handong area, especially in rural areas, there's still a strong preference for sons, so it's normal for them to want a son after the two-child policy was implemented.

I never expected to give birth to twin daughters.

Three daughters were definitely not an option; there would be no one to inherit the family throne. So, they had to keep having children. Fortunately, they finally got their wish and had twin sons.

The environment is much better now than it was 30 years ago. It shouldn't be difficult for a rural family to raise five children. However, the eldest daughter of the family who was online with Zhang Zhe has completely failed in the marriage market.

You can tell this just by looking at the comments.

Girl, run away quickly and go live somewhere far away, otherwise your younger siblings will keep you trapped for the rest of your life.

To be honest, your rural parents have absolutely no sense of responsibility for having children like this.

If a matchmaker introduces me to a girl like this, I'll ask for my money back.

Set aside the urge to help others and respect their fate.

To be honest, I'm afraid of getting harassed by a girl like this when I go out for a foot massage.

Although the audience's words were unpleasant, Zhang Zhe felt they made sense.

Now there are two options:

A is a gambling father, a sick mother, a younger brother in school, and a broken woman;
B comes from a rural family with four younger siblings who are waiting for her to help them.

To be honest, if I had to choose, A has a better chance than B, because A doesn't have to worry about the gambling father, A only has to help two people, while B might have to help up to six (including the girl's parents).

This comparison shows just how poor the girl's conditions are when they're doing a live stream together.

But she herself seems completely unaware.

After explaining the situation, she immediately asked Zhang Zhe, "Brother Zhang, I came here specifically to ask, what are the upper and lower limits of my blind date expectations?"

"Miss, are you pretty? If 10 is a perfect score, what score would you give yourself?"

"I'd say I'm a 3 out of 10. I'm just an average person, not good-looking and not in great shape either."

“Then your upper limit is easy to analyze,” Zhang Zhe said with some emotion. “It mainly depends on your ability to withstand pressure.”

"what?"

"Don't understand? Let me put it bluntly: can you accept that your partner has a mild disability, is divorced with a child, or is very ugly?"

Zhang Zhe's words are very realistic:

"In short, he has a major shortcoming: he looks down on women of the same social class, which forces him to only be compatible with women of lower social class in the matchmaking market."

[She's just a young girl, not even graduated from university yet, and the streamer is telling her to go find a disabled person?]

[The comments section is full of overgeneralizations; Zhang Ge clearly stated that divorced women raising children is also acceptable.]

[This suggestion from the host is really not a good idea.]

Zhang Zhe glanced at the comments. This generation of viewers is not good enough. The girl asked about the upper limit. If you don't pursue the upper limit, then you don't have to tolerate the other person's major shortcomings.
To put it bluntly, it's about accepting shortcomings in exchange for the other party's wealthier personal assets and family background.

Young women, in particular, are willing to take risks, swallow their pride, and endure hardship; if they want to marry well, it's possible, though the risks are considerable.

"Is this all I can do?" the woman asked incredulously. "Then... what about my lower limit?"

"The lower limit is very simple. Just compare it with your own conditions. The other party is also from a rural family with many children, but their family conditions are a little better than yours. Maybe the father is a bricklayer or a street vendor, and the family has a self-built house in the countryside."

"If you marry him, you can't expect to become rich and powerful, and you might even have to go to a big city to work together. Fortunately, he's honest and doesn't have any ulterior motives. He can't provide emotional support, but you can live together..."

Zhang Zhe's lower limit is that the woman should at least find someone like that, otherwise she'll be at a disadvantage.

Holy crap, I think I can already see this girl's entire life.

My parents are like that. They worked hard their whole lives, were lucky enough to make some money in business, and wandered through several cities before finally settling down.

[There must be many people like this in rural areas born in the 70s, right?] [By this calculation, doesn't this girl's family mean they're lagging behind the overall progress by a full 30 years?]

After hearing Zhang Zhe's words, the woman hesitated:
“But Brother Zhang, I have a blind date arranged by a matchmaker, and he seems a bit better.”

"How good is it? It exceeds the limit I set?" Zhang Zhe was a little surprised.

The system didn't give any notification, just a message saying "low-value intelligence," which stated:
This girl was pressured by her parents to get married, thinking that getting married early would help her parents share some of the burden, since they still had four young children to feed.

She came online for advice simply because she was unwilling to just find someone to marry locally, fearing she would repeat her mother's fate...

The system didn't mention what other strengths she has.
Is the man's family well-off?

"Yes, he went out after graduating from high school and did business with his father. Now he has started his own projects and his annual income is about 20."

"He has an older sister, but she's already married. Now his family is pressuring him to get married, so he's going on blind dates..."

The woman talked on and on.

It seemed to be her first blind date, so she took it very seriously and asked very detailed questions.

Why would this guy be interested in her?

To be honest, their ancestors' graves are emitting auspicious smoke.

Given this guy's annual income and family background, could he really find a teacher with a bachelor's degree after completing a vocational college diploma?

Is this guy just looking for a short-term relationship?

Zhang Zhe's opinion is the same as that of many viewers: even if this guy was introduced by a matchmaking agency, he doesn't seem like he's there for a serious blind date.

This is exactly like those scumbags who come to matchmaking agencies for short-term dating. These kinds of people are people who don't know how to get by in bars or nightclubs, and they're sexually repressed, so they use the guise of matchmaking to play with the feelings of young girls.

Zhang Zhe was 80% certain about his guess.

It cannot be ruled out that the remaining 20% ​​may be idol dramas.

Therefore, his advice was very pertinent:
"Just because a guy is willing to go on a blind date with you doesn't mean he's willing to marry you."

"From my perspective, he's only after your young body."

"Your appearance, education, and family background are not attractive enough to your blind date."

"The only thing I can appreciate is your youthful Zigong."

"what……?"

"Zigong?" The woman didn't expect Zhang Zhe to be so direct.

“Yes, you heard me right.” Zhang Zhe nodded very confidently: “Of course, it’s also possible that he really is here for a blind date.”

"So your best course of action is not to give yourself away easily, especially if you get pregnant."

[The host is being fair!]

[From Xiaohongshu, isn't the streamer supposed to be misogynistic? Now it seems like this is just a publicity stunt.]

Indeed, given her situation, the only option left is to take advantage of her body.

Sigh, to be honest, she sounds a bit simple-minded, and it seems she can't escape her fate either.

“Compared to blind dates, I actually suggest you take a different path,” Zhang Zhe said after thinking for a moment. “Go and build your career.”

“I know you’re pursuing a bachelor’s degree and might find it difficult to start a business, but even if you’re just making bubble tea, you can become a store manager in five years. By then, you’ll have a business and at least more options than you do now.”

"But I'm not very smart..."

"It's okay. When I was working in Shenzhen, I met people who were even less bright. Finding a job is much easier than finding a partner. Once you have a job, you might not need to go on blind dates anymore; you can find someone in everyday life."

"Okay, sure." The girl seemed to have taken it to heart: "Thank you, Brother Zhang."

"Then I'll put aside finding a partner for now and focus on my career."

"Alright, I'll disconnect from the microphone now!"

"No, no, no, Brother Zhang, I have another question I want to ask you," the girl said, somewhat dejectedly. "What should I do if the villagers gossip about me if I don't get married?"

Do you care a lot about what they say?

"Yes, I'm afraid of what people say about me."

"That's simple, if you really can't stand it, just massacre the whole village."

"Oh..." the woman responded instinctively, then realized what she had heard: "Huh?"

(End of this chapter)