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Chapter 318 The Family Disagrees (Supplement 3)

“Of course it counts.” Zhang Zhe nodded. “However, a girl’s values ​​may not be the same as a boy’s.”

“Especially since you’re someone who manages Xiaohongshu (Little Red Book) accounts.”

"From the perspective of most Xiaohongshu users, normal values ​​in reality might be a bit pandering to men."

Have you ever been accused of being a sycophant to men?

"I probably don't have any charming men, but I think my biggest advantage in blind dates is that I have sound values; my other qualities are just average."

“I used to be a very positive and optimistic person, but after my father passed away and I lost my house, I became less confident.”

"Compared to other girls, I'm probably not bad looking, have a stable job, and am of a suitable age, not considered old."

"I can't think of anything else."

"Oh, by the way, I usually like to cook for myself. My ex-boyfriend thought my cooking was pretty good, at least better than most takeout."

[Of all that talk, only cooking is somewhat useful]

This woman seems to have become somewhat obsessed with the house issue.

To be honest, nobody cares about her parents' affairs; it's mainly up to her.

It seems like she wants to marry someone of higher status, someone she'd be good enough for while her father is still alive.

"Sister, look at the comments."

"Their summary is very accurate. After all you've said, cooking is the most obvious advantage in a man's eyes."

"A stable job and a good income are not really an advantage for you among the girls you are competing with, especially only daughters who own property in Beijing."

"Yes, so I'm actually a bit insecure right now."

“Then you should try to get rid of this inferiority complex first.” Zhang Zhe said to her very seriously, “I can understand your thoughts, but from the perspective of choosing a partner, if I were to go on a blind date with a girl and she started talking about how her family fell on hard times, my first reaction would be: you’re playing the victim.”

“I didn’t—” the girl immediately retorted.

“But I feel this way.” Zhang Zhe shook his head and told the other person, “Even if it’s not playing the victim, it’s more like a disclaimer, as if you would use the problems of your family of origin as a shield if something happens later.”

"I was scared when I heard that."

I'm scared too. This thing is like Cao Cao telling you he loved cardamom in his dream.

It seems the girl is indeed insecure due to her family background and hasn't been able to overcome it.

Sister, your dad's gone, there's really no need to talk about this kind of infidelity.

These shortcomings from one's family of origin should definitely be addressed when the relationship truly progresses.

I feel like she herself doesn't know why she said that.

The comments section was filled with people calling themselves masters of psychological analysis. Zhang Zhe pointed out a few to his "apprentice" next to him.

Brainstorming is also an essential skill for livestreamers.

Of course, the most important thing is that the comments can be used as part of the basis for Zhang Zhe's statements:

"Sister, if you don't believe me, you can look at the comments and see what everyone is thinking."

"To say something you might not like, you're not as attractive as those young girls who don't have much wealth at home but are positive, sunny, and energetic."

"But actually, your physical attributes are clearly better than theirs. Your mindset and emotions are very important."

“This…” the girl said with a hint of annoyance, “Brother Zhang, I know I have a problem.”

"But I don't know how to change it now."

"I'm not trying to gain sympathy or anything, it's just that I feel my family situation is a major weakness, which has a significant impact on my choice of a partner."

"Try to accept yourself first and try to live a better life," Zhang Zhe sighed. He suddenly realized that a lawyer might not be enough for dating and marriage counseling; he'd need a therapist as well. This woman was clearly having psychological problems; even talking to her was tiring, let alone living with her.

"If that doesn't work, you should see a psychologist for counseling. Don't rush into blind dates right now."

“A normal man would definitely avoid you like the plague, but a man with bad intentions can easily cater to your thoughts and deceive you completely.”

"Okay, I trust Brother Zhang." The girl was somewhat receptive to advice: "Then I'll go down and think about it more carefully."

"If I adjust well in the future, what kind of partner do you think I can find?"

"Don't limit yourself. Your future has unlimited possibilities, sister. If you really adjust, the conditions may be different from now."

"What if you become a top influencer on Xiaohongshu?"

"Brother Zhang, you think too highly of me. Running Xiaohongshu is just a side job for me, a backup plan for my career."

“There are quite a few people who turn part-time jobs into their main jobs these days. You should go down and organize your thoughts first,” Zhang Zhe repeated his advice.

This woman is a bit impetuous; it's important for her to calm down and reflect at this stage.

"Okay, thanks, Brother Zhang."

The girl was sensible and didn't keep asking. If she had, Zhang Zhe wouldn't have gotten annoyed, but the audience would have too.

Although everyone is quite materialistic in real life, it's still a bit unsettling to be constantly reminded of "houses" while just browsing the internet for entertainment.

People still want to hear about things in marriage other than material things; even a devoted admirer is more interesting than just talking about money.

After hanging up the call, Zhang Zhe immediately connected with the next person seeking advice.

"Hey, Brother Zhang."

The speaker was a boy, his voice deep and muffled, like the sound of fat compressing his vocal cords.
"I'm here for relationship counseling. I want to ask about my relationship with my girlfriend."

"I've been dating my current girlfriend for almost half a year, but my family doesn't approve. They've introduced me to another girl, and now I'm feeling pressured and don't know what to do."

"Let's break up," Zhang Zhe said, shrugging. "Either break up with your girlfriend or break up with your family. It's one of the two choices."

"Huh?" The boy didn't expect Zhang Zhe's answer to be so direct: "Is there any way to avoid breaking up?"

"Your family is well-off, but the woman's family is poor, right?"

"Yes, it is."

"I guessed it would be like this," Zhang Zhe said calmly. "You want to enjoy the resources your parents provide, but you also want to refuse their arrangements. Sigh, there are no such things in this world that can satisfy both desires."

"Tell me, what are your terms?"

Zhang Zhe pulled over the whiteboard behind him, and it was time for another classic comparison exercise, something that happens every now and then.

This time he decided to keep it simple.

Start with the most important question: "What are the family assets of both of you?"

"Her family must have around seven or eight million, while mine is an A8.2."

“There is a difference, but not too much. Is your family a once-wealthy but now impoverished family?” Zhang Zhe frowned. “What do your parents do? Is there a big difference between them?”

"Her parents worked for a private company and are now retired."

“My father is a department-level official in a state-owned enterprise, and my mother is a deputy division-level official within the system.”

“That’s not surprising.” Zhang Zhe couldn’t help but laugh when he wrote down the T-level rating of the central state-owned enterprise.

Life has improved, and he's even started analyzing the marriage prospects of the children in these families.

(End of this chapter)