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Chapter 299 Hurt Too Deeply by His Ex-Wife
[To kill someone is to destroy their spirit!]

Holy crap, Brother Zhang is being so gentle today!

This woman is actually deceiving herself.

[Last time a woman made this kind of request, Brother Zhang scolded her until she cried, but you're being so easygoing today?]

"Then what should I do?" Zhou Ya asked the most classic question.

Give up thinking and seek help.

Zhang Zhe smiled and shook his head: "I don't know the specifics, but given your current situation, your assets on blind dates certainly can't just be your looks and figure."

"Your career may be the key."

"But to be honest, you really need to ask around about your cake shop. If it has potential, ask your parents for help to get the business up and running."

"Only when you can earn your own money will you have the confidence to speak."

“But I didn’t meet any good people when I had a job before,” Zhou Ya said indignantly. “I used to earn 7 a month when I was working, and that was pure income.”

"In the end, they still got divorced, didn't they?"

"This brings us to the second question." Zhang Zhe held up two fingers: "You need to find out why your first marriage fell apart!"

"Didn't I already tell you the reason? He's using passive-aggressive tactics."

Why use passive-aggressive tactics?

"How should I know? He's sick."

"This reason is insufficient and will not help your future marriage."

As Zhang Zhe spoke, he seemed to be transported back to his student days, explaining problems to his classmates.

Those who are unwilling to get to the bottom of things cannot improve themselves.

"If your goal is a happy marriage, then an unhappy marriage is your collection of wrong answers. The conclusion you've reached is like blaming the questions for being wrong."

"How can you improve things like this?"

[Why is the host being so patient today?]

[What if there really is a problem with the question? I think Zhang Ge's statement is too arbitrary.]

This woman's situation is definitely not just about her ex-husband.

"I think I understand what you mean now," Zhou Ya said, her voice still a little dazed. "My thinking wasn't quite right, was it?"

"Okay, I'll go back and think about it some more."

"I hope you really understand." Zhang Zhe sighed and reminded Zhou Ya before she went offline: "Perhaps you can think about whether you have an avoidant personality."

"This may be the key to your relationship problems."

"Okay, I understand, thank you."

"You're welcome," Zhang Zhe said with a smile and a wave of his hand.

"Don't rush, viewers. Let me answer your questions. Why am I being so polite and not questioning her wish?"

"Because it's useless."

“The older single women who made wishes before had problems with their understanding of themselves and the marriage market, but this girl is different; she has already been tricked into marriage.”

“She has met men who meet her requirements through blind dates. If I want to analyze her cognitive issues, I have to debunk all the men she has met.”

“That’s too tiring.”

Zhang Zhe shrugged. So the easiest way is to let her go back and think about where things went wrong in the previous divorce.

She took the initiative to correct her own perception.

Moreover, Zhang Zhe's point about "avoidant personality" is also very important; he had long suspected that Zhou Ya had this personality type.

This conclusion is drawn from my past experiences with others during my student days.

Her first husband's emotional abuse of her was most likely a choice made out of despair after realizing that her efforts were not being reciprocated.

Zhang Zhe didn't say anything more.

Otherwise, he was afraid that the other party would place all their hopes for marriage on him, which would be bad. It was best to stop here.

"Alright, let's continue today's live stream."

"The event starts the day after tomorrow, so hurry up if you want to connect via live stream, because the streamer will be going offline to meet customers again."

[Wishing you great sales!] [Where are you this time? I'm coming to gank you!]

Even I've applied three times.

"Hey, you guy who says 'Loves Jia Duo Bao,' did you really apply three times? I don't remember doing that at all."

"Come on, go on mic, I've connected you."

"Ahhh, Brother Zhang, you finally agreed to connect with me on voice chat! I've been waiting so long!" the guy wailed, though his tone clearly betrayed his joking.

"It's alright, good things come to those who wait."

"Now, here's the microphone for you. Introduce yourself?"

"Okay, but I have to explain why I'm doing a live stream right now. It's because my marriage with my ex-wife ended because she insisted on opening that lousy cake shop."

"I'd like to hear the details." Zhang Zhe gestured for him to proceed.

This is about combining a love story with starting a restaurant business.

Zhang Zhe had also read many restaurant bibles, and he knew that it was not uncommon for housewives to use their family savings to start businesses and end up losing everything.

Some women even used their own fathers' pensions to open shops, only to be swindled and become mentally impaired.

The key point is to hear the details of the older brother's experience.

"I was born in 85, just turned 40. I got married when I was 30, and we divorced after 7 years of marriage."

“I’m a programmer. When I met my ex-wife, I was working in Shenzhen, earning 15,000 yuan a month. I wasn’t well-off, but I had some savings.”

"Because I wanted to have a better life after getting married, I started my own business after getting married."

Have you started your own matchmaking agency?

[This feels like Zhang Ge's experience in a parallel universe.]

Should I get married during the early stages of starting a business? My bro, you're pretty capable.

“In the third year of our marriage, which was 2018, my business started to take off and I had some savings, so my wife asked me to buy a house in Shenzhen.”

"At the time, it was a down payment of 300 million yuan, plus a 10-year loan to buy a house."

"The price started to fall right after the property was handed over, and I ended up losing 120 million yuan, so I cut my losses and left the market."

"..." Zhang Zhe seemed to see one of his former colleagues.

He also bought a house in 18 and has already lost more than a million yuan. However, that colleague was buying a house out of necessity and is still paying off his mortgage.

"This is the first time I've been scammed," the older brother said with great distress. "I've always felt that there's no need to buy a house; renting is perfectly fine."

"But I didn't understand at the time, and I was controlled by my ex-wife."

"Then, at the end of 21, my ex-wife got bored after staying at home for several years without a job, so she decided to start her own business."

"I also want to open a cake shop."

"It went bankrupt after two months and lost 40 yuan."

"She was not satisfied, so she opened a franchise hot pot restaurant, and ended up losing another 60 yuan."

"And then we couldn't make it work."

Hahaha, amazing!

Actually, his wife was promoting employment; she's a really good person.

[You only lost 100 million, that's not much. You should be able to earn it back in a year, right?]

"Don't you have children?" Zhang Zhe pinpointed the key point in his older brother's story: "Married for seven years and no children?"

"Whose problem is it?"

"It was a mutual decision between us that we didn't want it. It's not a problem between us. We just felt that having a child would be too stressful, so we could wait."

"You've been married for seven years, which means you're 37. You still want to slow down?" Zhang Zhe shook his head: "That's not right."

"Brother, tell me the truth, do you want to be childless?"

"Of course not, it's just that I'm busy with work, don't have time, and don't want children. And my divorce has nothing to do with that; it's mainly because my wife wants to start her own business..."

"No, no, no." Zhang Zhe waved his hand: "Brother, perhaps it really is because we don't have children."

(End of this chapter)