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Chapter 228 You are a bit too extreme

Zhang Zhe now understood why this woman was afraid to go to the live stream.

In the eyes of most guys, a woman of this age having such unreliable ideas is probably being fooled by some mistress.

Maybe they've already given it all, they're just hesitating about whether to get a divorce.

Women who are morally bankrupt are practically invisible in live streams.

Anyone can stand on moral high ground and criticize her.

There are even some hot-tempered guys who relentlessly attack her, bombarding her with private messages for days on end.

Most people couldn't stand it.

Some people have already had their accounts deleted after being criticized.

But Zhang Zhe hasn't thought about cheating yet.

This woman's looks only deserve a 2.8 out of 10; aside from not being overweight, she has almost no redeeming qualities.

It's not that ugly women can't cheat; there are plenty of ugly women who are quite promiscuous. It's just that with her appearance and her near-death state, normal men wouldn't be interested in her.

"Big sister, it's not too late for you to regret it now."

"Really?" Zhang Zhe's words made the woman's eyes light up.

"Of course, every woman has the right to start over. Even if you are in your sixties or seventies, you can still get a divorce if you want to."

"This is a right granted to you by law."

"The question is..." Zhang Zhe spread his hands and asked, "What kind of person are you looking for after your divorce?"

"Many of the women I've met who want a divorce feel that they have conflicts with their husbands or that they think their husbands' income is too low."

"But your husband is often away on business trips and hands over his salary, which is already the ideal marriage for most women."

Zhang Zhe understands women quite well. A large number of women hope that they won't have to bear any responsibilities after marriage, and that they can still have money to spend.

To put it bluntly, it's about finding a patron.

Therefore, men who are rarely home are their ideal type.

Even if I don't like it, it's fine. We'll only be together for a few days during the Chinese New Year. The rest of the time, I'll live a wonderful life on my own.

It's no exaggeration to say that this kind of man is considered a "good man" on Xiaohongshu (a Chinese short video platform).

“Money isn’t that important. I still hope my partner can spend more time with me.” The woman thought for a moment and said, “I’ve had enough of this widowed-like marriage.”

"I think it's better for couples to spend time together."

“Okay, it’s easy to find a man who provides companionship, much easier than a man with a high income.” Zhang Zhe nodded and said, “As long as you can accept that his income is lower than yours.”

"Earn 6000 a month, get off work regular hours from 9 to 5 every day, and wait for me at home."

"Is this okay?"

"Huh? Six thousand? That's too little!"

"Six thousand is too little?" Zhang Zhe turned to Xia Yi and asked directly, "Is six thousand a month considered low in Qing City?"

“It’s definitely a lot.” Xia Yi replied seriously, “My dad told me that the median salary in our city is only seven thousand. If you deduct the social insurance and housing fund, six thousand is already a lot.”

“But my husband earns a solid 300,000 yuan a year now, and this 6,000 yuan only amounts to…”

"Only 70,000 a year?" The woman did the math and was shocked: "That's only half of what I make?"

"So what? He's at home with you every day, shouldn't you share some of your earnings with him?" Zhang Zhe almost burst out laughing.

"It shouldn't be that low, right? My conditions are actually quite good. Although I have been married before, I don't have any children."

"But you're 32."

“My job is stable, and I don’t need to take care of my parents in their old age.”

"But you're 32."

“Before I got married, I could have found a man with an annual income of around 20 yuan working in a government-affiliated institution, but because of our relationship, I ended up choosing my current husband.” “But you’re 32.”

"..."

"Matchmaker, I know what you mean, isn't it just that I'm too old? Can you stop repeating the same thing over and over?"

"Oh, I thought you didn't hear me." Zhang Zhe smiled apologetically, "Sorry for being a bit long-winded."

"I just want to tell you that all the things you regret now, and the things you think you have an advantage over, are all things you've thought about from the perspective of your younger self."

"You're 32, you shouldn't think like that."

"You, a single woman in your twenties, and a divorced middle-aged woman in her thirties are like heaven and earth in the matchmaking market."

"I know that. I know I'm a bit older now, but I work in the public sector, which I think gives me an advantage in the dating market, right?"

"Come on, let's invite my assistant, who works within the system, to analyze this for you." Zhang Zhe smiled and gestured for Xia Yi to come forward.

Xia Yi is a tenured kindergarten teacher, which is essentially considered part of the public sector. Given that her father holds a high position within the public sector, she has the most authority to speak on such matters.

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"I think it's true that divorced women within the system can find partners, but you have to accept that the man has a major flaw, such as being bald, not liking to shower, or being divorced with children."

Xia Yi wasn't intimidated at all. From childhood to adulthood, many of the older brothers, sisters, uncles, and aunts around her worked in the system.

She certainly ate a lot of wedding candy from couples working within the system.

“Someone like you, sister, might be better suited to find someone who can take care of children, because you seem very family-oriented.”

High emotional intelligence is described as being family-oriented;
If someone has low emotional intelligence, it means: they are ugly, look very reliable, but are already half a haggard old woman.

"I can't take care of children. I don't even have children myself, how can I become someone's stepmother?"

"I just want to find someone whose income is similar to my current husband's, someone who can spend every day with me. Is that not allowed?"

The woman's tone gradually became impatient because what Zhang Zhe and Xia Yi said did not match her expectations.

She consulted a matchmaking agency privately instead of via live stream, because she felt that asking about her marriage in front of so many people in the live stream would make her vulnerable to criticism.

It's not that she thinks she can't get married after getting divorced.

“My colleagues and some close friends all married men from the same or neighboring companies.”

"Actually, their income isn't that much different. Over the course of a year, they only earn about 100,000 yuan less than my family. But they are often together and live a very happy life."

“I’m married, but this married life feels like it has nothing to do with me.”

“That’s right, what you said makes sense.” Zhang Zhe nodded; this woman was only telling the truth now.

A large part of the reason she wants a divorce is probably because she compares herself to those around her.

If a person loves to compare themselves to others, even the happiest life will be ruined.

She might complain about her husband not spending enough time with her today, but if she had chosen someone who spent more time with her back then, she'd probably complain about him not earning enough money now.

Those who are never satisfied do not deserve happiness.

"So I said, you can get a divorce and pursue a harmonious married life, as long as you lower your expectations for your partner's income."

"If you really want a divorce, do it before you go through menopause. Otherwise, it will be torture for both you and your husband."

Upon hearing this, Xia Yi couldn't help but tug at Zhang Zhe's arm; the suggestion seemed a bit too extreme to her.

Zhang Zhe, of course, understood what the girl beside him was thinking.

Xia Yi has a gentle personality and her ideas are naturally moderate. If she were to offer advice, she would most likely tell this woman to go back and have a good talk with her husband.

But in reality, this woman must have communicated with the authorities many times; the idea of ​​divorce definitely didn't form overnight.

As she just mentioned, she had even discussed this issue with her parents, but they did not support her getting a divorce.

(End of this chapter)