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Chapter 167 Insecurity
"Dude, you can't handle this? I only get 600 yuan a month in pocket money."

This marriage was pointless.

You men, do you think women like managing money? In poor families, every penny has to be saved.

To be honest, some girls can't even pass math; can they really manage money?

[A married man who doesn't smoke or drink only needs 200 yuan a month for pocket money; having money will only corrupt him.]

Zhang Zhe hadn't thought about the issue of handing over his salary after getting married.

But after hearing my brother's calculations, I really feel that life isn't worth living.

The worst part is that your wife might transfer the money away, and when you reach middle age and need to spend money, you'll find that you don't have a single penny in savings.

It's really quite devastating to think about.

But judging from the comments, this is actually the common situation for a large number of men in China, especially employees of state-owned enterprises and those within the system.

In fact, most people are in a worse situation than this guy who was on a live stream.

Some of them even have wives who are full-time housewives, and they have to support the whole family on their own. They can't keep a penny of their salary, and they have to ask their wives for living expenses every week.

"Brother, although your calculations are correct, I have to criticize you. Your reaction is a bit too slow."

"We've already agreed on the bride price and gone to propose marriage, and you're only now starting to think about these things? Shouldn't everything be considered when you're planning to get married?"

"I was too busy with work before," the guy on the video call made up an excuse, but he couldn't even convince himself. He finally sighed and said, "I really didn't think that much about it."

"I was already dreaming about the wonderful life after marriage."

"Haha, you should thank your girlfriend's parents then," Zhang Zhe said with a laugh. "If they hadn't treated you so badly, you probably would have actually gotten married."

"Now that you mention it, it's true." The boy chuckled sheepishly.

"Not only that, but I'll say something you won't like to hear." Zhang Zhe thought that since this guy had already come to his senses, he should be able to tell the truth: "Your girlfriend doesn't really like you that much, and neither does her family."

"You are the one she chose after weighing the pros and cons."

"There's nothing I can do. I can't find anyone better than you, and I don't even like you, so I can only console myself by controlling your money."

Since you can't find a good man, just find one who's obedient.

[Host, you're being a bit cruel, really.]

I truly don't understand why some people are unwilling to hand over their hard-earned money to others, even to their parents—the people who gave them life and raised them!

My ex-wife only left me 500 yuan every month, saying she was saving it all. But she ended up using the money to pay the down payment for her younger brother's new house, claiming it was a loan that she could never pay back.

The older generation of mothers managed the money because they were more frugal. Nowadays, women spend money extravagantly and are incapable of managing money.

"Teacher, I have a question." The boy, having gleaned some insights from the live chat, asked Zhang Zhe, "My ex-girlfriend says she feels insecure if I don't hand over my salary, and she cries and throws a tantrum. What should I do?"

"But as long as she agrees to hand over her salary, she becomes normal."

"I feel that this problem has no solution."

"Huh?" Zhang Zhe frowned. "Bro, are you a born coward? What does it have to do with you that the woman is prone to insecurity?"

"She said she comes from a single-parent family, so are you going to help her mother find a husband?"

"This is different, isn't it?" the boy retorted softly.

"What's the difference?"

"..." The boy couldn't answer.

"Actually, there's no fundamental difference. These are just characteristics of girls themselves. It's just that when she says she feels insecure, you feel you can help her solve this problem; when she says she comes from a single-parent family, you feel you can't solve it, so you deal with it rationally."

"Some viewers in the live chat said that this is just an excuse for the woman to want to control the money. Sometimes it's not, but that's not important."

Zhang Zhe smiled; he wasn't going to generalize and condemn everyone.

People who lack a sense of security are often sensitive. If he caters to the views of extreme commenters, his private messages will be flooded with them tonight.

"We don't need to worry about all that."

"Just focus on one thing: think twice before doing anything she asks you to spend money by taking advantage of her personality, and always refuse." "Even if she threatens divorce, you should think about whether divorce is a better option."

"It's not just about feeling insecure. She might say she needs to take care of herself, work out, or have you earn money to support her graduate school entrance exams. Think carefully about all these things that cost money before making a decision."

That's all Zhang Zhe could say. And that's it; many girls are still cursing him.

I think he generalized from a single case.

But in fact, "insecurity" is just as infamous as "Yu Yu syndrome," and there are even established routines that can be followed.

The first step is to become arrogant because of favor:

I don't feel safe, so you can't have personal space, your phone can't have privacy, and I need your phone password.

The second step is to push the limits:

I lack a sense of security, so even if you're busy at work or in a meeting with your boss, you have to reply to me immediately whenever I message you on WeChat. If you don't, I'll make a scene.

The third step is to begin withdrawing the money:
I feel insecure, so you can't have money. You have to hand over all your salary to me. And because I feel insecure, you have to give me little surprises every holiday.

This step is the most outrageous. A man with 500 yuan of pocket money a month must send red envelopes and gifts on holidays. If he wants to send a "520" red envelope, he will owe WeChat 20 yuan.

The fourth step is the ultimate kill:

If you put the money with me, I will manage it well. If you ask me how exactly you manage the money, it means you don't trust me, and it makes me feel very insecure.

If you want money, we'll get a divorce!
The funniest thing is, he's divorced and has no money left, haha, I've already spent it all!
Such stories unfold almost every day, with no two plots repeating themselves. From falling in love to finally getting divorced, the steps are almost identical.

But there's no way around it, there are just too many turtles. They'll say that giving money to your wife to manage is a way of showing love for her.

(That's what Huang Mao said too; he also loves his rich sister-in-law.)

The guy who was on the live stream was actually quite lucky; the girl's parents didn't approve of him, which saved him from a disaster.

Otherwise, after marriage, his life would be completely predictable, and it wouldn't be surprising if he suddenly had a meltdown and performed a trapeze act.

"Okay, thanks, Brother Zhang." After listening, the boy had a lot to say: "I originally just wanted to connect via voice chat and find someone to vent to."

"I don't have many friends, but I often watch your live streams."

"But I learned something new today."

"You're too kind, brother." Zhang Zhe said modestly, "I can't really say I'm learning anything. Just stay in the live stream, and at least you'll know what you want."

"Do you still want to get married later?"

"I do think about it." The boy answered quickly: "Although there are many downsides to marriage, I think it's because I haven't found the right person. My parents have a very happy marriage, and I think if I find the right person, I can be very happy too."

"No problem, bro."

"If you have this mindset, just keep looking. If all else fails, come to the live stream and ask me to help you analyze it."

Zhang Zhe enjoys dealing with guys who are determined to get married.

While one reason is that these types of men are more likely to become repeat customers, the main reason is actually:

These days, anyone who dares to get involved is a brave soul and deserves respect.

After all, their child, born after marriage, will be the future master of this world. Zhang Zhe also hopes that someone can develop a holographic helmet and a Yin-Yang capsule so that he can live in the game world when he gets old.

After disconnecting from the live stream, Zhang Zhe briefly responded to the questions in the chat:

Teacher, what should I do if I can't get married because I'm picky about looks?

"Those who prioritize looks in the dating market should sit at the same table as dogs, thank you."

My ex-girlfriend and I broke up over the bride price, and almost a year later she came back to me. Should I continue the relationship?

"Isn't this great? Your girlfriend has been improved, and she'll come back so you can see her progress."

[I've been on over 50 blind dates, but haven't met a suitable one. Why is that?]

"Sister, come, come, please take a seat."

(End of this chapter)