Shocking! The school heartthrob who was adopted by a wealthy family is actually a heiress!

Chapter 327 But he no longer wants to like me.

Lin Jianwei remained as kind as ever, and asked familiarly, "How have you been lately?"

Qin Zhao lowered his eyelashes: "Not good."

Lin Jianwei's expression softened slightly, and his voice became even gentler: "Can we talk?"

Qin Zhao recounted what had happened in the past few days: "He kissed my neck, and then I felt a little out of control... and wanted to escape."

She clenched her fingers: "I did run away, but he grabbed me. Then I cried for a while."

"I don't know what's wrong with me these past two days. I used to be fine with kissing, but now... my heart is racing uncontrollably. I'm a little scared and want to push him away."

She looked at her, her voice low: "I am...I'm all better, aren't I?"

Lin Jianwei smiled reassuringly: "Do you remember how long you cried?"

Qin Zhao shook her head, then thought about the movie's progress bar: "Maybe ten minutes?"

"What about the emotions after crying? Can they be controlled?"

"Well, yes."

Lin Jianwei looked at the report: "Based on the description of your core symptoms and physiological indicators, the treatment has been successful and has reached the standard for clinical cure."

However, bodily memory needs time to adjust.

She thought for a moment and drew a simple diagram on a piece of paper: "It's like there's a special pathway in your nervous system that's rarely used but can be activated under certain circumstances. When intimate behavior happens, your cognitive level knows it's safe, but your defense system is still using past experiences to make judgments."

"This is not a relapse, but a normal stress response. It is both a test of secure relationships and a confirmation of gender identity."

Qin Zhao: "Then why are the reactions becoming more and more obvious?"

Lin Jianwei leaned forward slightly: "We can analyze it together, okay?"

"When you first realized you couldn't control your emotions, you released them through crying, and your emotions were completely under control. Did anything happen afterward, like how did he react?"

"He was trying to comfort me, but he seemed a little sad. It's like he thinks I don't like him." Qin Zhao lowered her eyelashes.

"And what about you? How do you feel?"

Qin Zhao lowered his eyelashes.

Lin Jianwei didn't press the issue: "Have you felt any pressure, or had thoughts like 'I have to get better quickly'?"

Her voice was gentle: "Such additional emotions can amplify physical reactions."

"Trauma affects our safety threshold for intimate behavior. This is not a regression, but rather your nervous system managing risk more finely."

She leaned forward slightly: "You just said you're all better, right? What are you worried about? Are you worried about going back to treatment, or are you worried about not being able to date?"

Qin Zhao's voice was low: "Both."

Lin Jianwei looked at her gently: "Your avoidance reaction is essentially a self-protective instinct, not a symptom of loss of control. At present, we do not need to intervene with medication."

"It's normal for your boyfriend to feel hurt. We can explain to him that your avoidance isn't rejection, but rather a process of adjusting your pace. It has nothing to do with him; it's part of your own process of building security."

A healthy relationship doesn't require you to be completely normal, but rather that he understands your pace and you are willing to take things slowly.

If you're willing, we can set goals together. For example, how to clearly express your need for intimacy and set boundaries. If you don't want to go into that, that's fine too. The focus going forward isn't therapy, but rather how to make the relationship adapt to your true self.

In other words, it's about accepting your true self and getting your partner to accept your true self.

Qin Zhao's fingers twitched slightly, her eyelashes drooping: "I don't want him to think I'm different from others."

“You want him to see you as ‘complete,’ not as someone who ‘needs to be fixed.’ That’s perfectly reasonable,” Lin Jianwei said patiently. “We can use a difference narrative to represent the problem narrative, so that he feels that you’re not abnormal, but rather that you are unique.”

“A ‘normal’ intimate relationship doesn’t exist. Every couple has to work through their own ‘quirks’.”

Lin Jianwei: "This process is not abnormal, but rather a process of jointly creating your own intimate code, which is more profound than that of ordinary couples."

But he no longer wants to like me.

Qin Zhao pursed his lips: "How can I control these reactions? Or when will these reactions disappear?"

"Your reaction is not out of control, but your nervous system protecting you. So control is not the goal, but learning to cooperate with it."

As for how to reduce the impact of these reactions, desensitization training can be carried out gradually, and safe signals can be agreed upon with your partner, etc.

These reactions may never disappear, but their frequency and intensity will gradually decrease.

Individual differences can be very pronounced over time. It takes about 6-12 months to discuss these reactions more calmly; somatization reactions in trusting relationships will significantly decrease after 1-3 years.

Several key influencing factors, such as stable support from a partner, personal mindset, and viewing reactions as signals rather than problems, can affect the time frame.

Qin Zhao seemed to have had his edges smoothed out: "Another three years."

“This is just a time reference; your recovery will be faster, especially since you already have a stable foundation built up over four years,” Lin Jianwei said. “If you want to accelerate the process, you can consider having your partner as your ‘recovery teammate’; and set up phased challenges to upgrade your nervous system.”

Qin Zhao remained silent.

Lin Jianwei pushed the warm water in front of her.

The crying was essentially a subconscious test of trust. She tentatively asked, "In your prediction, what would be the ideal scenario if he participated in the learning?"

Qin Zhao's eyelashes trembled: "I don't want to hurt him anymore."

"Your feeling that he is hurt and unhappy could stem from two possibilities—he is 'worried about hurting you' or 'misunderstood your reaction.' Instead of telling him your private information, we can provide behavioral guidelines to give both of you space for psychological understanding and action."

Qin Zhao was not happy about this: "Will the damage disappear like this?"

Lin Jianwei paused for a moment, then said, "Actually, your symptoms don't affect your life, and it's perfectly fine if you don't want to go into detail."

After so many years of communication, this was the first time Lin Jianwei had ever seen her with such an expression; it was impossible for her to be completely devoid of emotion.

"But you like him and don't want him to get hurt. Or you also want to build a good, intimate relationship with him, right?"

Qin Zhao remained silent.

She said gently, "If making him follow your pace is harmful, then forcing you to follow his pace is also harmful to you."

“He didn’t force me,” Qin Zhao denied, her voice low. “But I’m not normal, am I? If he were dating someone else… he wouldn’t have these problems.”

(End of this chapter)