Training the Heavens

Chapter 116: Learning from Guo Jing

In different eras, there are different terms for relationships between men and women. Nowadays, the more elegant term is "dating", and the more direct term is "dating".

谈, a first-level Chinese character, is pronounced as 谈 (tán), and its original meaning is to say or discuss.

By extension, it can be understood as dialogue, chatting, and heart-to-heart talk. From this point of view, the meaning of dating is very clear. Through dialogue and chatting, you can understand the other person's character and then decide whether to establish a formal romantic relationship.

In the 1990s, a new word became popular in Guangdong - dating.

Shipping is well developed at the Pearl River Estuary. Usually, a large ship carries cargo and tows a small boat, with the large ship towing the small one in the main channel. When approaching the shore, the large ship has a deep draft and is difficult to dock, so the small boat unloads the cargo and goes ashore, relying on each other to go back and forth.

Later, this image was used to illustrate the mutual care and inseparable relationship between men and women in love. At this time, the status of both parties in the relationship between men and women is still equal.

However, I don’t know when it started, talking and dating turned into pursuing, and once this word came out, the meaning became different.

What does it mean to chase? You run in front and I follow behind, trying to catch up with you.

What is pursuit? It's a diligent pursuit. Applied to relationships, it means actively striving to capture the heart of the opposite sex. Typically, it's the man who pursues the woman.

In this way, it seems that men are put in a relatively low position, and women become more reserved. Before confirming the relationship, they will look at your performance and sincerity. After confirming the relationship, they will often send gifts to maintain the relationship. After getting married, they will also ask for a house and a betrothal gift.

But why? Why should I chase you? If you want to run, then run. Why should I cling to you? Are you the only girl in the world? Without you, humanity will perish?
Many people don’t understand this truth and just think that this is how men and women get along. It wasn’t until many years later that a teacher named Tong revealed the truth: women are won over not by chasing but by attracting.

This can also be seen in the animal world. Male peacocks will not chase female peacocks. If they show off their beautiful tail feathers, the female peacocks will come up to them. Male monkeys will not chase female monkeys either. If you become the monkey king, all the monkeys in the mountain will be yours.

So as long as you have something that can attract girls, you will never lack girls. If not, either this attraction is not real, or you are not in the right place and have not found the fish pond that belongs to you.

Gao Jialin has many attractive features, including talent, wealth, age, fame, and even good looks and figure. If he still wants to chase girls with such conditions, he can only be described in one word - cheap!

In the past, he ignored those girls who took the initiative to show their affection to him because he looked down on them. But now that he was a little interested in Chen Hong, he showed off his attractiveness a little like a peacock spreading its tail feathers, and the girl was really attracted to him.

So don’t believe the saying that people are slow to warm up. They just don’t like you. Instead of continuing to pester them, you might as well change your target quickly. The more you try, the more likely you will meet someone who likes you.

"Ding Dong~~" The doorbell broke the increasingly ambiguous atmosphere between the two people.

Chen Hong became nervous again, "Have your family members returned?"

"No, I'm usually the only one here. It must be the delivery guy." Gao Jialin went over and opened the door.

Chen Hong followed curiously and saw a waiter standing at the door holding a bicycle. "Teacher Gao, are the dishes you ordered ready? Are they the same as before?" "Yes, thank you for your hard work." Gao Jialin thanked him.

The waiter took the wooden box from the back of the bicycle and walked to the dining table. He took out various delicacies and began to serve the dishes. His hands and feet were very skillful, and soon a table full of sumptuous dishes was set.

"Mr. Gao, please have your meal. I won't disturb you. I'll come back to get it in two hours." After saying that, he walked out quickly and closed the door for Gao Jialin.

"Come and try the Western food at the Red House. Comrade Wu Hao once said, 'If you want to eat Western food, there is a Red House in Shanghai.'" Gao Jialin pulled out a chair and extended his hand to invite.

It's my first time here, and I'm eating and drinking at the same time. Isn't that a bit inappropriate? But they've already ordered the dishes, so wouldn't it be even worse if I didn't eat? Chen Hong struggled for a moment, but couldn't make up her mind to refuse. She walked over and sat down. "Thank you. Next weekend, if I have time, I'll treat you to a meal. But I can't afford something that expensive, so please don't be disgusted when the time comes."

"Whether food tastes good or not has nothing to do with how expensive it is. I know there's a snack bar nearby that makes very good pan-fried buns. If you like it, I'll take you there next time and you can pay after you finish eating." Gao Jialin agreed readily.

Don’t feel embarrassed to let girls spend money. Sometimes choosing to accept can bring you closer than refusing.

"We agreed that you are not allowed to pay when the time comes." Chen Hong was indeed very happy. If other boys asked her to treat them to a meal, she would definitely not be happy, but Gao Jialin was very happy.

When it was time to eat, Chen Hong was embarrassed again. She didn't know how to use a knife and fork, and didn't know how to eat the dishes. Gao Jialin demonstrated it to her, and Chen Hong learned it quickly. It seemed that girls learned these things particularly quickly.

"The name Red House was chosen by Mei Lanfang because the entire exterior of the restaurant was red. At the time, Shanghainese people would simply say they were going to the Red House when they came to eat there. Over time, the restaurant simply changed its name to Red House."

While eating, Gao Jialin introduced the history of the Red House and the characteristics of various dishes. Chen Hong listened with great interest, "The service in this restaurant is really good. They even deliver the food to your door."

"Actually, they don't deliver. Ever since I wrote 'Spring Breeze in Meilong Town,' the restaurants I go to are always very nice, especially the ones nearby. I mentioned to them that sometimes I don't want to go out for dinner while I'm writing books at home, and they offered to deliver food to my door. The Red House isn't far from here, so I just gave them a call and they delivered it."

This is another extra benefit of writing food novels. Otherwise, even if Gao Jialin is willing to pay for the takeout, the food may not be delivered.

After eating, Chen Hong prepared to collect the dishes, "Let me help you wash it."

Gao Jialin stopped her and said, "No need. The guy who just cleaned up will come over later. He also helped wipe the table. He would be unhappy if you cleaned up."

It was already late, so Gao Jialin didn't keep her any longer. He rode his bike to send her back to school, then turned and left. When he turned the first corner, Gao Jialin looked back and saw Chen Hong still standing at the school gate looking at him.

The impression left on her today should be deep enough. I guess she will remember this scene for a long time to come, right?

Hmm, this scene seems familiar. Who did this? Gao Jialin thought for a moment, then suddenly clapped his hands. Wasn't this what Guo Jing did when he first met Huang Rong in Zhangjiakou?
Guo Jing may be really honest, but this routine is really useful.

(End of this chapter)