The growth system comes at the age of 30

Chapter 146 When They Fart!
Today's lunch was braised eggplant with green beans and stir-fried shredded pork.

Last time I made dry-fried beef shreds, this time I made pork. Eating too much beef will make you sick of it, but the taste of pork is more in line with the eating habits of Jiangbei people since childhood.

"Recently, teachers seem to like asking me to stand up and answer questions." Chen Qiyun complained while eating.

Chen Jingle put down his chopsticks: "Don't you like it?"

Chen Qiyun pouted: "Of course I don't like it. If I answer wrong, it will be embarrassing."

"Why do you feel ashamed?" Chen Jingle asked knowingly.

Chen Qiyun looked at him as if he was a fool: "If you answer wrong, the other students will laugh at you!"

Chen Jingle asked with a smile: "Are they always right?"

"No, they are worse than me." Chen Qiyun snorted.

"Then what right do they have to laugh at you?"

"Who knows? Anyway, they laughed." Chen Qiyun was unhappy.

“Are you on good terms with them?”

"nor."

Chen Qiyun thought that if she was a close friend, they would not make fun of her.

At least not very loudly.

She may not realize that this is a common problem encountered in school.

Chen Jingle did not continue to ask, but talked about something else: "Before I went to school, I had many good friends in the village. When I was in elementary school, I also had many good friends. In junior high school, high school, and even college, I also had many good friends."

"But after graduation, at my current age, there are only a few people I still keep in touch with, maybe only one in ten. Many people appear again after many years, and I may not even remember their names. Maybe you can't understand it now, but it's the truth."

"Don't take others too seriously. Most people are just passing through your world and may not leave any trace. There is no need to waste your expression on these insignificant people. It's not worth it. You are the most important."

"As long as it does not cause adverse effects on others, just focus on your own experience. Do you understand?"

Chen Jingle asked her.

Chen Qiyun thought about it and nodded.

“Just like this string bean.”

Chen Jingle picked up a bean and said, "Some people like it, some don't. Because liking something is very subjective, we can't control other people's thoughts. If he doesn't like it, then he doesn't like it. I didn't make my beans for him to eat."

"I like to eat beans, and I can control how to make them taste good. I will do my best to control what I can control. As for those who don't like to eat them, do I care about them? Who are they?"

"It's the same with people. There will always be people who don't like you for a variety of reasons. Even if it's because of money, there will be people who don't like you. If they don't like you, just ignore them and everyone will be fine. If someone targets you, just curse them back!"

Chen Jingle feels that it is better for people to be a little aggressive. If they are too nice, they will be easily bullied.

Chen Qiyun nodded again. This example was much simpler and easier to understand.

At least she could understand why people were different.

Chen Jingle continued, "Besides, they laughed, and then what? Will you lose a piece of meat because they laughed at you? Will you become one centimeter shorter because they laughed at you? No. So why should you care about their opinions?"

"They are just a group of people who are not as good as you and will only laugh at you with malicious intent when you make mistakes. Maybe there are some well-intentioned people who don't understand or just follow the crowd, but that doesn't matter. They are not important, only you are important."

"Just treat them as farts! If you know farts stink, just pinch your nose and stay away from them, instead of knowing it's a fart and taking a deep breath to smell it. You can't even remember how many times you've farted in your life, so how can you have time to remember other people's farts?"

"The key is the teacher's questions. That's what you need to pay attention to. That's what you can learn. It doesn't matter if you make a mistake once. Just remember not to make the same mistake in the same place next time. Do you understand?"

Chen Jingle looked at her.

Chen Qiyun thought about it and nodded again.

"So, don't care about other people's negative opinions. Let go of your so-called face, and life will be much easier."

Chen Jingle tapped the plate with the tip of his chopsticks: "Okay, let's eat!"

Chen Qiyun stopped talking and lowered her head to eat.

However, she successfully listened to what Chen Jingle had just said, and after thinking about it, she realized that there was really no need to care about the opinions of those irrelevant people.

After I figured it out, I suddenly felt much more relaxed.

……

Chen Jingle said so much simply because he saw his own past shadow in Chen Qiyun's complaints.

In addition, I happened to see a similar family education video this morning. A little boy was ridiculed by other classmates at school. The child’s mother, who is a psychological counselor, taught him and netizens a lesson.

This made me deeply feel the importance of family education.

The lack of family education in rural areas is undoubtedly an objective fact.

When he was in school, Chen Jingle would blush with shame because of the smallest things or mistakes, and he would still feel upset about them for a long time afterwards.

This all stems from one’s own lack of confidence.

But the question is, who would care about these things except him?

Do you remember an ordinary classmate in your class ten years ago, who was called by the teacher to answer a question in class, but couldn't answer it and was laughed at by his classmates. He felt so ashamed that he couldn't eat or sleep?

It’s good enough to remember that there was such a person in our class!

The fact is that no one cares!

Most people don't care about anything other than themselves!
Unless it was something extremely outrageous and impressive, such as a classmate farting in the classroom and knocking everyone out, which was a socially fatal situation. Chen Jingle believed that he was not so outrageous. In the eyes of his classmates and teachers, he was always the type who was not as good as the best but better than the worst.

Ordinary, unremarkable.

There aren't many things that people will remember about you, so don't worry about whether it will embarrass you.

Even if it does happen, it will only be awkward for a while when people talk about him or see him, and no one will keep holding on to other people's embarrassing things.

The difference between joking and teasing and malicious targeting is very obvious.

If you are really targeted, then fight back!
……

After eating,
Chen Jingle sent a message to Li Beixing: "Teacher Li, how is Chen Qiyun doing in school today?"

Li Beixing had just finished his meal. When he saw the news about Chen Jingle, he was delighted at first, but then he frowned: "Didn't we agree to just call my name?"

Then she replied, "She's doing fine. She listens to the lectures carefully and can answer questions in class accurately. I noticed that she also completed the homework assigned during the holidays very well. What's wrong? Is there any problem?"

"Well, when it comes to your work, I think it's better to refer to your job title."

Chen Jingle told me what they talked about during lunch: "It's like this. During lunch, Chen Qiyun talked to me about how she was afraid of answering questions incorrectly in class and being laughed at by classmates."

"She lacks confidence, for one thing. I also want to ask, how does the school usually do in guiding students to establish correct values, values and values, and how to get along with classmates? Has the head teacher emphasized these things in class?"

"I think this matter needs to be taken seriously. For a child, an unintentional laugh from a classmate in childhood may be a scar that she needs to heal for a lifetime. You should understand what I mean."

Li Beixing was stunned and fell into thought, then replied: "Well, I understand what you mean. If it is true as you said that some students are becoming more and more inferior because of this, then it is indeed necessary to correct this trend in a timely manner. When I get to school in the afternoon, I will discuss with other teachers how to deal with this problem, and also report it to the school leaders."

"Thank you. I'll leave this to you."

"You're welcome."

"..."

"I feel like I'm becoming more and more like a qualified dad."

Exiting the conversation, Chen Jingle felt emotional.

Even the videos that Douyin recently pushed to him were all about parenting tips and cute kids.

Outrageous!

He is still a virgin!
"Since the country encourages childbirth, why can't they just give me a cute baby? The one I give birth to may not be cute. What if I give birth to an ugly one..."

Chen Jingle muttered in his heart.

It is normal for children not to inherit their parents' good looks and high intelligence.

Besides, there is no such thing as a natural birth that is easy or quick.

He doesn't hate children, he hates naughty children.

the other side,
Seeing that Chen Jingle had not sent any more messages, Li Beixing silently closed the dialog box and began to think seriously: "I need to explain this to the other teachers. It would be best if we hold a class meeting to discuss this issue."

Even if the person who raised the question was not Chen Jingle but other students' parents, she would still take it seriously.

This is an educational issue that concerns students' entire lives. We cannot say that it is not important just because it does not cause major problems.

Maybe it’s not that there weren’t any big problems, but that they weren’t big enough to be disclosed.

In fact, this kind of situation is not uncommon on the Internet.

in the afternoon,

After arriving at school, Li Beixing first told the teachers in the office about this matter, and it really attracted everyone's attention.

After all, student education these days is no longer what it was ten or twenty years ago. If something goes wrong and it becomes public on the Internet, it is easy to lose your job.

In the past, strict teachers produced outstanding students, but now strict teachers are being fired.

Everyone is doing this job carefully and to the best of their ability.

In most cases, teachers choose to respect the fate of others, let go of the desire to help others, and let the flowers grow into flowers and the trees grow into trees.

The gardener is only responsible for pruning branches and leaves, watering and fertilizing, and cannot change the species.

“Don’t support rotten mud, don’t scald dead pigs, don’t help the aspiring, don’t play the lute for cows, don’t mend broken pots, don’t turn over salted fish, and don’t carve rotten wood.”

This is the feeling of many teachers after working for a few years.

But this does not mean that they are willing to see a good student being hurt by something bad.

After everyone discussed it, Li Beixing went to the teaching department with the grade director to report the issue to the leadership.

"Since parents have reported the situation, we should resolve the issue as soon as possible, and not wait until they get angry and complain."

These are the original words of the dean of studies.

If other teachers came to report the situation, it might be necessary to verify and hold a meeting to discuss it. Since it was Li Beixing, there was no need for this.

then,

As the notice was issued by the Academic Affairs Office, each class in each grade of No. 8 Middle School began to hold class meetings to discuss this issue. At the same time, the class teachers sent the notice to various parent groups, hoping that parents would cooperate with the education work.

Neither Chen Qiyun nor Chen Jingle had expected that their casual mention would turn this matter into a school-wide educational project.

Fortunately, for most students, it is not a bad thing.

(End of this chapter)