I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

On the barrage

“Businessmen only say good things and never make enemies (thumbs-up).”

"I have never seen anyone in my time of trouble (highly praised)."

"High, it is high!"

“You can only truly understand it if you have experienced it.”

"Thank you, Mr. Shui."

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Raymond Lam: "Time reveals a person, adversity reveals a person's true heart, and without going through something, you can't understand a person.

You have to look at the world with your eyes and mouth, and everyone of them should be sincere.

When you wake up and look at the world, you will see scheming everywhere.

But then again,

If you look at people's shortcomings, there will be no one in the world worth making friends with.

If we look at people’s strengths, everyone in the world can be our teacher.

okay,

No matter how much you say, it will be useless if you don't use it.

You have to walk your own path.

Mr. Shui and I are just here to chat with everyone."

come on,

Next person.

Ding~
"Hey bro."

It's a girl.

Raymond Lam: "What's the problem, sister?"

Girl: "My husband is a very unstable person, and we have been married for 6 years. Now I feel more and more that I can't stand him. I don't know how to solve it."

Lin Feng: "What are you enduring?"

Girl: "It's his temper. I feel like I can't handle it."

Lin Feng knocked on the table and said, "Then tell me something specific. How would I know what his temper is like?

If you don't specify, how can I know whether he really has a bad temper or your tolerance is too low?
I didn’t understand what you said, so I can’t make such a rash judgment, right?”

Girl: "For example, if I encounter something, he will be very impatient and his face will be very bad."

Lin Feng waved his hand and said, "Don't use examples, that's too vague, sister. Just tell me a real thing that happened recently."

The girl nodded: "The most recent incident was due to work. There was a problem with his client, and then he got angry at home.
He would also make a bad face, and then I would feel a little bit unbearable and start arguing with him. ”

Lin Feng frowned: "Then why are you arguing with him?

When he loses his temper and is in a bad mood, it is because he is emotionally attached to the client, not to you. "

Girl: "But he looked at me badly."

Lin Feng said speechlessly: "Sister, are you having a hard time living a good life?
What do you mean by having a bad face?
You have sensitive skin.

It is impossible for a normal person to smile when he encounters trouble.

Take me for example. If I encountered problems during the live broadcast today, such as being scolded by haters or having my room blocked,

Then when I go to my girlfriend's house, my face will also be very sour.

Because I’m not happy now.

If your house is big, I will go to the study and calm down for a while, and find a way to calm down.

The house is small, so I can only sit in the living room.

I'm in a very bad mood, so how can I be happy at this time?

If a person doesn’t even have the right to feel uncomfortable at home, or even the right to show a bad mood, what’s the point of this family?

He has emotions, but they are not directed at you.

I usually find that my partner starts to look grumpy and have a bad temper because of work.

Shouldn't I give him emotional value?

Husband, don’t be sad, forget it, it’s over, don’t be angry with him, let’s go out for a walk later.

Isn't that what we should say?

You, on the other hand, are not satisfied with your work, so why are you looking at me in such a displeased manner?
Damn it, I’m already unhappy because of the problems I encountered at work, and when I get home I can’t even have a quiet moment, so I have to come and coax you?

Sister, when you encounter a problem, you should fight the problem together, not you against him.

Can you understand?

Even though he is obviously feeling very sad, he still has to grin and laugh at you.

It's inexplicable. You are not like this."

Woman: "Ah? Is that so?"

Lin Feng grinned: "What do you think, sister?"

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On the barrage

"My husband is in a bad mood, but I still want him to smile (covering his face)."

"You are together against the problem, not you against him (thumbs-up)."

“This woman has sensitive skin (dog head).

My eldest brother can describe it.

Hahahahaha

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Girl: "I think it may be that I didn't express myself clearly. Let me give you another example. I forgot to deliver the gift to this customer or something, and then he got angry at home."

Lin Feng: "Isn't that your mistake at work?"

Girl: "It's not my problem. I didn't do it. It was his employees who did it."

Lin Feng: "That's right, then he was angry at the workers, what does it have to do with you?"

Girl: "But he wouldn't do that to the workers. He would give me a cold shoulder."

Lin Feng said angrily: "If it's not my sister, did I say it in vain?

Isn't it normal for him to have such a look on his face?
Isn’t it normal to feel uncomfortable at home?
I am just unhappy now, shouldn't you comfort him?"

Girl: “Hahahaha okay, is that so?”

Lin Feng: “No, don’t laugh.

For example, many sisters-in-law who take care of children at home often feel bored.
If you say you are annoyed now, you definitely can’t have a smiling face.

My husband just got off work at this time.

As soon as I saw you had a sullen face, I thought, "Oh, you're giving me a stinky face. Why are you giving me that face?"
Then your husband quarrels with you.
You think this is okay, right?

What nonsense.

At this time, you definitely want your husband to come over and hug you, caress you, and say, "Oh, it's okay, it's too tiring for you to take care of the children alone, let's find a nanny."

Or let my mom come over to help.
After the kids fall asleep, your husband will take you out for a walk and buy some good things.

Isn't that the case?

And I give you a face.

I'm telling you the truth, if he goes out to drink with his friends you'll behave yourself."

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On the barrage

puff~
Hahahaha.

The last sentence made me laugh.

"When he goes out to drink with his friends, you just behave yourself (laughing and crying)."

"Big brother is so cute, hahaha."

"Brother is so understanding. It's obvious that he has suffered a lot of humiliation (dog head)."

Absolutely!

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Girl: “Okay.”

Lin Feng: "No, okay, no wonder you were so vague before, because if you were to be more specific, you would expose your own behavior."

Girl: "Then let me give you another example."

Lin Feng: "Don't use analogies or assumptions. Just give a specific example. At least I can tell that this question is yours."

Girl: "Okay, let me be practical. We run our own business. Whenever we have a quarrel, he always says he doesn't want to run the business anymore and asks someone else to do it. That's it. I feel he is irresponsible."

Lin Feng was speechless: "He is not happy at work, can't you help him share the burden?

It's okay, I'll take care of it. You go to the side and take a rest.
Isn’t this how all couples get through this?

If you think he is irresponsible, then you are also irresponsible.

He is like this, he just quits his job and I can't stand it.

Are you responsible?
Sister, a family doesn't depend on one person. You can see in the comments that someone said not to bring work emotions home.

Is your brain rusty?

Or did you drink too much chicken soup?
Why not bring work emotions back home?
If not home, where would he take it?
Keep it in your heart!

He's not angry with you, I'm just simply unhappy, what's wrong?
Is there a problem?

For example, you have already got off work, and suddenly your boss calls and says that you did not provide good service to a customer, that you caused the problem, and then scolds you.
Then you can still laugh happily with your boyfriend?

What nonsense.

When I feel bad in society, isn't it time to seek some comfort at home?
You see my ugly face, a normal girlfriend would come over and comfort you,
It’s okay, it’s okay. This stinky boss is a bad boss. He still curses people after work.

I complained about my boss with my boyfriend, and it wasn't long before the incident passed.

Next time you are in a bad mood or you are tired of taking care of the children at home, I will comfort you in return.

Isn’t it always like this?

Give each other emotional value and tenderness. "

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On the barrage

"Don't bring your work emotions home. Which dog said that (grin)?"

"People outside don't treat you like a human being, and when you get home you have to hold back your emotions. What's the point of living?"

"The main thing is that some people have really bad tempers and can get angry over the smallest things (covering their faces)."

"Pour some wine and drink with him."

"That's right, no matter whose problem it is, solve the problem, don't just think about solving the person."

well said!
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Lin Feng: "How else can he be happy at this time?

I am feeling sad, but I still want to comfort you and smile at you.

Some people have really been having a good life for too long and can no longer distinguish between work and life.

If you watch Douyin, you will find that all of them are imitating husbands, working hard without complaint and treating their wives like queens.

But in reality, as I said, not everyone comes from a wealthy family, not everyone is a boss.
Many people work and live at the same time.

Struggling at work,
There are struggles in life too.

Wouldn’t it be better if we could tolerate each other?
Why can it only be requested unilaterally?
Damn it, I quit this job.

Many people have such moments.

I'm saying these angry words, but I'm not talking to you, and I'm not really quitting.

He earns money, so it's normal for him to have some pressure and want to release it. What's wrong?

As lovers and family, we should not only accept each other's good points, but also share the good times and not the bad times.

When the other person is in a bad mood, we should also give emotional value.

We can’t just enjoy good things at home, because it also has negative energy.
A person cannot be positive forever.
When he is at his lowest point, who can he be angry with?

He came to the company and said, "Damn it, I'm quitting this business."

Well, the employee felt that it was over, the boss was getting ready to run away, and we had to leave early too.

After listening to his complaints, the customer was done and decided not to do business with him anymore.

So who can he complain to?
He can only stay at home.

As his other half, I should accept his negative emotions occasionally. Why should we care so much about each other as a family?

To be honest, if someone’s right to complain is taken away, he will be suffocated to death.

It's mutual, isn't it normal?

And as I said just now, just like when you get tired of taking care of your children, you will also have emotional breakdowns.
Now that your husband is back, you will definitely not be in a good mood. You will definitely be sullen.

Why are you unhappy? Because you are very tired.

Now when I tell you that you are tired, you still have to smile at your husband and make him happy. Are you willing to do that?

You can't do it either.

We are all human beings. Why do you ask others to do something that you cannot do? "

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On the barrage

"It was just an angry remark. I didn't really abandon my business and run away. You label me as irresponsible (speechless)."

"The right to complain has been taken away, people will be suffocated to death. (Thumbs up)"

"Everyone has bad moods sometimes. When you are angry, he tolerates you, and when he is angry, you tolerate him. Isn't that what husband and wife are like?"

"My wife and I complained about our boss to each other. We both said we didn't want to do the job anymore, but we still had to do it hahahaha."

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Girl: "It's not that I don't give emotional value, but I can't stand him giving me a cold shoulder."

Lin Feng waved his hand: "Let's stop talking, we've finished talking. If he doesn't give you a cold look, he's just in a bad mood and has a sour face.

Who can have a smile on their face when they are in a bad mood?

I told you, if your house is big, he could just go to the second floor and act cool himself.

But your house is not big, so he can only sit in the living room."

Girl: “But…”

Lin Feng interrupted again: "Don't say but, if you can't bear it, if you have your own ideas, just do it.

But please don't keep leading me in that direction, because at least I heard there is no big problem now,
Many issues are not matters of principle.”

Girl: "Yes, he has no problem with principles."

Lin Feng: "That's all.

To be honest, if he was really in a very bad state, you wouldn't have to come up and connect with me, you would have just left him on your own.

But you also know that when two people live together, there are bound to be good and bad things. "

Girl: "But I don't know what to do now, so I just want to ask how to deal with this kind of relationship?"

Lin Feng: “It’s very simple. First, when a customer has this problem and is unhappy, you should either give him emotional value or walk away.

If you can coax him, do so. If you can't or don't know how to coax him, just walk away a little and let him resolve the problem on his own.

Don't be sensitive, his emotions are not directed at you.

Because a person is in pain, he cannot be strong at home or do anything else.
I tell you, there is no need to pretend at home.

The second is not to be instigated by others.

Can you understand?
Many people cannot live a good life.

You know yourself that your husband's business is doing well, his income is stable, and he has no issues of principle, so that's enough.

Don't listen to what others say. Oh, he always gives you a bad look. What's the point of having a man like that? Just forget about it.

All right,

You listen to them.
You can't pass it.

and then?
Can you definitely find a good one?
not necessarily.

Then you won't be able to live well, and they won't care about you.

Why are so many people creating confrontation between men and women now, including some bloggers? They are all for traffic and deliberately amplify your anxiety.

You guys are really having a hard time, get a divorce, I don't know if you can find someone better for the rest of your life,

But they are making a lot of money.

So live a good life and listen less to chicken soup for the soul.

Only we ourselves know whether he is good or bad.
Only we ourselves know that this person does not have any big problems, no issues of principle, and we feel that we can still live like this.

Because there is always a good side to him. We should learn to accept some of his negative emotions.
I said, people can't just enjoy the better things in marriage.

Just like what I said about the exchange of men and women, your wife may be very tired after taking care of the children all day, and when you get home from get off work, you will find that he is cooking with a sullen face.

But she is not stern towards you, but because she is really tired these days.

You should either comfort her at this time, or give her time to calm down on her own."

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On the barrage

"Another thing I want big brother to tell (laughing and crying)."

"This woman just can't have a good life."

"Men and women exchanged words, and they understood everything."

"Brother, you really have the right values!"

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Raymond Lam: “Okay, sister, I’ve finished talking.

If he's being rude to you for no reason, that's another matter.

But now that I've listened to him, it's like you said, he really has problems and has been frustrated at work, so he's very upset, and it's understandable that he's a little grumpy.

Whether you can pass it or not is up to you to decide." (End of this chapter)