I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

Raymond Lam: "Okay guys, it's almost three o'clock.

There are many people in the live broadcast room today who have been chatting with you until now,

We can’t chat anymore.

I see many people saying they are going to bed but they keep laughing and can’t fall asleep.

You can't sleep because you're listening to crosstalk.

Impressed!

The last three wheats!
Even after sleeping.

Come

Ding~
"Hello, bro."

It's a girl.

Lin Feng: "Hey, hey, hey, why are you crying right now? The platform has a mechanism. I will remove Douyin for you later."

The girl quickly wiped away her tears and said angrily, "I'm sorry, brother. My mom beat me today and I'm very sad."

Lin Feng smiled and said, "Hey, what do I think?

I'm telling you about my sister.

My parents also beat me when I was a child, but I dare say that my mother's beating didn't hurt me at all.

That was just a tickle.

Sometimes my mother might think that she beat my father quite hard and would pull him aside and say, "Look, his hands are all red from beating him."

What's red?

Even a fall I've made outside is worse than this.
I was just pretending to be in pain.

Of course,
It would be different if my dad beat me, because my dad really beat me.

The belt made a clanging sound when it hit me.

That's really a father's love like a mountain.

I feel a little scared when I think about it now.

younger sister,

Let me ask,
Only your mother beat you, but your father didn't beat you."

Girl: "No, my mom beat me."

Lin Feng nodded: "Then it's okay, sister."

. . . . . . .

On the barrage.

"My mom's beating didn't hurt at all, I was just pretending."

"Mom: It was still too light."

Hahahaha.

"Father's love is like a landslide. Who understands this lame joke? It makes me laugh to death. Hahahaha."

"My dad is different. My dad's love is like a mountain collapsing and the earth cracking (dog head)."

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. . . . . .

Lin Feng: "Tell me, why did your mother hit you?"

Girl: “Brother, I’m not a child anymore. I’m 23 years old, but I was still beaten by my mother.

Woo woo woo. .

Here's the thing, our family runs a small business, selling clothes.

Then I didn’t do well in my undergraduate exams, so I went to study for a master’s degree in England for a year and came back.

My major is Ui design.

I originally wanted to find a job in this field, but I didn't find one during the spring recruitment this year.

I'm thinking about updating my portfolio or something and then continuing with the fall recruitment.

Now my parents asked me to help out in their store.

But I don't share the same values ​​as them. My mother is the type who will say you don't wear makeup today, then tomorrow you have swollen eyes from sleeping, and the day after tomorrow you find fault with me, like you are short and so on.
So sometimes I just don’t want to listen to him.
The conflict has intensified recently, so I blocked my ears.

When I went to work, they gave me some living expenses, which was about 6000 yuan, and then I ran between the stores.

I have had some problems recently. Maybe I spoke too harshly, or was lazy, or went very late at night. They got very angry and said something.

Sometimes people would say something in anger, and I would say it was because of bad genes or something like that,
But that's because he always compares me with other kids.

I talked back to her and she hit me.”

Lin Feng: "What did you use to hit him? Where did you hit him?"

Girl: "He slapped me several times with his hands."

Lin Feng nodded: "Okay sister, I understand everything.

Now wipe your tears and listen to me slowly smoothing it out for you.

Whether you are 23 or 13 years old, it is wrong to hit others.

But sister,

be honest,

Your mother is quite tolerant of you.

With a family like yours, I believe many people envy you."

???

The girl looked puzzled.

Lin Feng took a puff of cigarette and said, “If you often come to my live broadcast room, you should know that I hate parents who use violence.

There were even times when I would criticize them in the room.

So some haters would accuse me of creating conflicts between my children and my parents and causing conflicts in my original family.

Actually, it is not.
Careful brothers will find that the parents I criticized definitely do more than just beat their children.
He has no care yet, no love.

This is what I always say, no money, no love, but still violence.

So you say that you as parents shouldn’t be criticized?

But your situation is different from those.

Because you just said a lot, my overall feeling is that your parents may not express their love, but they must love you.

For example,

Many people cannot go to university if they do not do well in the college entrance examination.
But your mother sent you to England to study for a master's degree for a year, which cost a lot of money.

Three hundred thousand a year is definitely necessary.

Then, if you don't find a place in the spring recruitment, many parents won't care about it.

But your parents still give you 6000 yuan, just to let you run around in two stores. If you are lazy occasionally and go late, they will just nag you a few times and forgive you.

If you go out to work normally and you are late, not only will your salary be deducted, but your boss will also scold you severely.

You have the same problem, you don't know how to express love.

You clearly want your parents to care about you, but you deliberately use provocative methods to anger them.
Then your parents are really angry and can't control their temper and hit you, and you cry and say that your parents don't love you anymore.

I'm not targeting you, sister, don't you think so?
You said your family runs a clothing store business, so it is normal to work in a store, even if you work for others.

Leaders will also suggest that you put on some light makeup first, which will actually make you look a little better.

Because it’s a store business, people always have to have a good image.

You said you didn't wear makeup today, what's wrong? Your eyes were swollen from sleeping last night,
If a customer comes, he will always look at your image in a better way.

These are obviously the details you should pay attention to when you are working normally. If you don't do it, your mother will remind you normally.
When you say it, it means your mother dislikes you and is finding fault with you?

Is this really the case?
In fact, your mother has always been covering for you.

No matter whether you go to college or find a job, isn’t your mother always providing for you?
Normally speaking, many people's parents cannot provide a safety net for their children.

They also scold and even beat their children.

So I say that compared to many people, sister, you are already very happy. "

. . . . . . .

On the barrage.

"My parents have always been there to protect her, but my eldest brother saw through her true colors at once (amazing)."

"Watching this guy's live broadcast, I suddenly realized that my brain is not enough (covering my face)."

"Really, you thought he was going to criticize the naughty kids, but he ended up criticizing their parents. You thought he was going to criticize the parents who committed domestic violence, but he suddenly told you that your parents just don't know how to express their love, and you feel like a fool (laughing to death)."

"The parents that my eldest brother criticized are ordinary people themselves but they force their children to become successful."

Correct!
"The host's brain is not only big, but also very smart. I only heard that this is a problem with their family interaction model. There is no right or wrong. We must learn to accept. But when the host said it, there was no word "acceptance", but acceptance was everywhere. It's amazing."

. . . . . . .

Raymond Lam: "Really, sister, your parents are very good and have always been there to support you, but maybe sometimes both sides have a temper.
There are times when we can't control ourselves.

You really don't know what to do, let me give you some advice.

It is now July and the autumn recruitment is about to begin.

No matter what kind of job it is, whether you are satisfied with it or not, just do it first.

If you don’t want to live with your parents, you can rent a house outside.

As our economic capabilities improve, we will gradually have more say.

Your parents also know that you are capable of living independently away from them. They will gradually realize that you have an independent personality and will gradually respect you.

Similarly, when we have our own career and are busy with work, we will know what real work is like.

It doesn't mean that you can take the subway without makeup and wearing slippers every day, nor does it mean that if you were sleepy after watching TV series yesterday, you can go to work later today.

No,
If you are a little late, your salary will be deducted and your boss will be angry with you.

There's no one out there to back you up.

Only after you have experienced it, you will find that your family members are actually very good to you. You also know that it is not easy for your parents to start a business or keep it going.

We can feel a little relieved now.”

The girl was silent.

Lin Feng: "Of course, this is my advice to you after you find a job, but what about the period before you find a job?
I'll teach you a trick.

You can't preach either.

I will tell you some of my own experiences, hoping it can give you some inspiration.

I was also beaten by my mother when I was a child, but my mother was easily pua by me.

I can't laugh at this.

A smile will wipe out ten years of merit.

Be serious.

My mother has a very soft personality. Every time she criticizes me or educates me, I will PUA her.

I would say, Mom, you don’t love me, you just want me to study, you just like the way I look in your eyes, you don’t love me at all,

After saying that, I pretended to cry.

My mother would then nervously explain, "Mom, no, I really love you. How could I not love you?"

The more I provoke my mother, the more she will think that she just doesn’t love me. Otherwise, why would she beat me? Why would she say that I’m not as good as other children?

In fact, my mother patted me lightly.
It doesn't hurt at all.

But I pretended to be in pain and cried and said you just hit me and you don’t respect me at all.

My mother started crying.

I couldn't stop crying.

So I feel very comfortable at home.

Very comfortable.

If I don't do my homework, my mom will cry if she dares to say anything to me.

Later, one of my mother's sisters came to live with me for a while and said to my mother, "Your child is too lazy and you can't leave her alone."

My mother started to control me and made me stand in the corner if I didn’t do my homework.

But I'm not afraid, I know how to do PUA.

I told my mother that it was your own child and you should let someone else take care of him.

From then on, whenever my aunt was nice to me, I would call her mom.

My mother was so anxious at that time, I cried and explained at once.

My life is comfortable again.

Can you understand, sister?

If your mother beats you, it's like the sky is falling.

With some wisdom, you can live as comfortably as I do."

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"But I'm not afraid, I know PUA (dog head)."

“This is the first time I’ve heard of a PUA mom, hahahaha.”

"So what? At most I'll make my mom cry (covering her face)."

"What a talent! If he had learned this trick earlier, he wouldn't have been beaten for so many years (crying to death)."

Hahahaha. (End of this chapter)