I am an emotional anchor, one sentence can break the defense of the whole network

Raymond Lam: "To put it more clearly, we will fight against our brain and our own physiology countless times in our lives.
Because our body has a profit-seeking instinct.
For example, our bodies want to eat better, wear better, and be comfortable, and we do whatever makes us comfortable.
These are all instincts.

But people must not follow their instincts.

This is what distinguishes us humans from other creatures.

Because people are educated.

It is able to go against our primitive instincts and our desires.

of course,

It doesn't mean you can't take a nap, but it can easily turn into abnormality if you hold it in for too long.

So you can take a nap.
But be moderate.

Learn to control yourself instead of being driven by desires.

okay,

That’s it for this topic.

When I first started live streaming, I never thought I would be here to deal with this for you guys."

Lin Feng smiled and shook his head.

Next person.

Ding~
"Hello, military advisor."

It's a girl.

Raymond Lam: "Hello, what's the problem?"

Woman: "I want to consult about a family problem. Recently, a relative of mine had a child who jumped into the river at the age of 21. He is now dead.
I have a child myself, and I’ve been quite anxious lately about how to educate my child so that he can be stronger mentally.”

Lin Feng sighed, waved his hand and said, “Sister-in-law, there is no such thing as strong or weak.

I always believe that people will not have problems suddenly.
Who the hell would suddenly commit suicide?

We say that survival is an instinct, do you understand?

Even ants try to survive, let alone humans?

I don't know if you can understand that everything has a tolerance level.

It's okay if you bend it like this, it will bounce back.

But if you keep trying, one day it will break.

You said that the child who jumped into the river was probably suffocating due to the long-term pressure, denial and expectations from his parents.

So when it comes to children, I don’t think there is any question of whether to educate them or not. I have always told you that love and respect are the prerequisites.

Put yourself in your child's shoes and don't have too high expectations of him. We parents should demand more from ourselves.

For example, if I want a good material foundation, I don’t want to raise children or want them to achieve great success to satisfy my vanity.

Parents have to work hard on their own.

No matter how excellent or not, what he will become in the future, or how he does outside, the child will always be his father's baby.

When you come home, Dad will always cook the meals you like and the meals you like to make.

Dad will still approve of you and will never deny you.

Can you understand?
Too many blows and too much denial will cause you pain.

Many times, pain is not caused by the outside world. For example, if I am earning money outside and my boss scolds me, I can understand it.

It's about making money anyway, so it doesn't matter if you suffer.

I can understand if a customer scolds me.

But after I went back, I couldn’t understand the denial from my parents. Why did you still deny me when I tried so hard?

Do you understand?

Denial from parents is deadly.

Denial from family members is fatal.

No from your significant other is deadly.

What is fatal is the denial from the people you care about.

Not to mention boys, even girls are the same.

Your boss may scold you, your clients may give you trouble, and you may feel a little wronged at best.
But when you go back, your husband will ask you what the hell it matters.

Can't you bear a little bit of anger?

Damn, the sky is falling.

So most of the time, don’t do this at home.
You have to understand that home is a harbor, not a stopover or a spur.

Home is a place for children to replenish their energy.

No matter how well or badly he does outside, he will be loved at home.

Do you understand? "

. . . . . . .

On the barrage.

"Jumped into the river at the age of 21... (scary)."

"People who wish to die probably have no strength left in their hearts (tears)."

"Brother is right. Even ants try to survive. No one can suddenly become desperate (sigh)."

"The ice three feet thick does not form overnight."

"My mom said I was like a dead slave as a waiter."

"I feel like crying when I hear this (I feel heartbroken)."

"No matter how good or bad the child is, or how well he does outside, he will always be his dad's baby. When he comes home, his dad will always cook the meal he likes (really makes me cry)."

"Big brother really has a broad vision (thumbs up)."

"No matter how the children do outside, they will be loved at home. Let's encourage each other."

mutual encouragement!

. . . . . . .

Girl: "For example, the one who jumped into the river had his reasons. His family adopted the type of repressive education, and the parents and children were not close. But my son is not like that. I adopted the type of encouraging education for my son. For example, I don't have that..."

Hey hey hey,
stop stop stop!
Lin Feng waved his hand and interrupted: "You just asked me a question about education. I have already said it.
You don't need to say that others have a repressive education and then highlight yourself.
Just do what you can with your child, and stop discussing him.

Can you understand?

The person has passed away, and the misfortune he suffered is pitiful enough, that’s enough.”

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"The person has passed away. The misfortune he suffered was pitiful enough. My God, the military advisor is so warm."

"Yeah, he's already passed away, so please show some respect (hey)."

"Are you here to feel superior, big sister? (angry)"

"The dead are the greatest (flowers)."

It’s down!
. . . . .

Woman: "I'm not trying to highlight myself. I just want to ask if this is okay for educating children, because my child is in kindergarten.
He has been bullied recently.

The other kid, who was also from our neighborhood, bullied him several times.

Then I kept encouraging and guiding him, and told him that if he was bullied, he should fight back.

In fact, I have always advocated that he should not fight back, but others will bully him again and again. "

Lin Feng laughed when he heard this: "If you are bullied, fight back yourself. This is really an encouraging way of education.

It turns out that it was just encouragement, but no real work was done.

You are pretty awesome too."

? ?
The woman looked confused.

Raymond Lam: "If you throw the problem to a kindergarten kid, will he know how to deal with it?
There is a word "protector" in the word "guardian".

Do you understand that you have the duty and obligation to protect him?
If someone bullies your child and you know your child cannot win, do you still insist on asking him to fight back?
I can't beat him in the first place, and I'll be beaten again next time I go.

I have already talked about this issue a long time ago.

Those of us who have actually encountered bullying know that it's just like those yellow-haired hooligans outside of school.
You obviously can't beat the other person, but your mother told you to fight back, otherwise she will come back and beat you today.

The question is, if you fight back, can you win?

You'll just get another beating.

So parents should step in and not just push the problem onto their children.
If your child comes to you for help because he or she cannot solve a problem, don't throw the problem back to the child and ask him or her to fight back.

He could have hit him, he had already hit him.

You have such a despicable character like me. If I could have beaten him back then, would he have dared to blackmail me?

If he dares to provoke me, I will show him on the spot what it means to be a real man born in this world and not to be depressed and inferior to others for long.

My fist is as big as a sandbag, it can blow your head off.

But what can I do if the other party is stronger than me?
I can only say: Brother, don’t hit me.

The money is given to you on your own initiative."

. . . . . .

On the barrage.

"The child couldn't fight back so he asked you for help, but you let him fight back? (Awesome)."

“How can I fight back if I encounter someone bigger than me (grin).” “You will only get beaten harder (covering my face).

"Bring a few brothers and continue beating (raised eyebrows)."

What the hell!

It's too awful.

"How can a real man be depressed and inferior to others for long? Look at my fist which is like a sandbag (dog head)."

"Brother, don't hit me, I'll give you all the money (sunglasses)."

"You still have to be the eldest brother, who can bend and stretch (Wang Chai)."

Hahahaha.

. . . . . . .

Raymond Lam: But if it’s just a normal quarrel or normal pushing between two people, it’s normal for conflicts between children, and it’s just a one-time thing, then it’s not bullying.

But many times, they targeted my child alone.

Which child makes a move? I will scare you in one go.
If you want your child to stand up, you have to set an example for him first.

Set an example for the kindergarten.

Then other parents have to warn their children to stay away from his children and not to bully his children.
His parents are both mad dogs and it's difficult to talk to them.

This way other children will know that your child is not easy to bully.

Don't underestimate the child. Human nature, after all, is to bully the weak and fear the strong.

Children also know who's parents don't care about, and if they are bullied and their parents don't deal with it, they will bully your child in the future.

If your parents can set an example,
You are a child, I can't target you, I will go find your parents.

I want your entire family to publicly apologize to my child in class.

No apology, right?
Since your parents don’t have a job, then I will go to your workplace and report that your child bullies his classmates and your parents don’t do anything about it.

Until you are scared!"

. . . . . . .

On the barrage.

"Parents should set an example for their children first, and then the children will learn it (this is a very good saying)."

"His parents are both crazy dogs and hard to talk to, hahaha."

"When I was a kid, I had a father who was like a mad dog (laughing to death)."

"When I was in middle school, someone kicked me in the stomach. My dad came over and choked his dad. After that, he had to lower his head and walk around me whenever he saw me (hehe)."

"Well done to your dad!"

"When I was a kid, I was a mad dog myself. Men, women, young and old all said I was not easy to mess with (lulu)."

envy!

“I am also a mad dog, because my mom said to study like a mad dog (grin).”

You...

Hahahahaha.

. . . . . . .

Woman: "Then I want to know how to train children to solve problems."

Lin Feng: "There is no need to train the child, these things can be solved when they grow up. Now at the kindergarten stage, he just needs you parents to help him deal with it. Don't always push the problem to the child."

Woman: "But if I ask him to fight back, he will say that he can't bear to do it. Even if others bully him many times, maybe he is afraid of not being able to fight back as you said. But I think on the other hand, he has some people-pleasing personality, plus he is a little too kind."

Stop!

Lin Feng knocked on the blackboard and said, "Don't label your children. Why do you parents always do this?

Children are growing up and they will change. They may have a people-pleasing personality when they are young, but this personality is not necessarily a bad one.

The people who please others, good at observing people's expressions, are very popular in the drinking room.
Knowing that the leader might not be driving or doing something else, I should drink less today, or not drink at all, right? I should take the leader home, right?

It's actually a good thing.

I say it again, don't label your child, he will change when he grows up.

The problem now is that you, as a parent, should help him deal with the problem, and not throw it back to the child. Let me tell you again.

The first thing is to let your children learn Sanda, Taekwondo or something like that.

Whether your child is kind or something else, don't try to shape his character.

He has no problem.
As a parent, you failed to protect his kindness, and this is your biggest problem.

What's the matter with being kind or not? I was also a coward when I was a kid.

When faced with classmates who are better off than me, I would lie to my parents and say that they might be trying to steal our money because they don’t have any.

Actually?

That's something I can't beat.

Damn it, I'll try it when I grow up.

What is excessive kindness? It is because of your own uselessness that you force yourself to be kind.

If my dad were here, do you think I'm kind?
If my uncle were here, do you think I am kind?

I am just comforting myself."

. . . . . . .

On the barrage.

"I'm reluctant because I can't beat him and I don't have the confidence."

"You're right. What's the point of being kind or not? It's just cowardice."

"Your own uselessness will force you to be kind. Big brother, what you say is really clear (thumbs-up)."

"If my dad were here, would you think I'm kind or not? (Dog head)."

“It’s funny and true. Children are timid because they have no support.”

"The key is that my sister-in-law won't listen and is still talking about the child."

"Because this mom is confused."

Clicked.

. . . . . . .

Girl: "But there is another situation. The two kids live in the same neighborhood as us, and they know each other and are familiar with their parents. Their parents are actually a bit unreasonable..."

Shut up you.

Lin Feng interrupted directly: “Then let your child be bullied.

You also say that other parents are unreasonable. But in the final analysis, you yourself don’t dare to argue with other parents, so how can you let your children argue with them?
It also encourages education.

Encourage your child to rush forward while you hide behind.

You are really good.

I tell you, no one is unreasonable. People are all the same and they bully the weak and fear the strong.

If you can't do it, then forget it. Don't throw the problem onto your child. The problem is not with your child, but with you.

That's your problem in itself.

You adults can't solve adult problems, so you ask children to solve them. Are you kidding?

The method has been given to you, if you can't do it, it's your problem.

I can't ask other parents to be reasonable. I can't change others.

Because you are the one who is online, I can only ask you,

If you have the ability to solve the problem, then go ahead and solve it. If you can’t solve it, forget it, you deserve it.”

finished,

Lin Feng kicked the woman off the microphone.

Then he took a puff of cigarette and went to the live broadcast room and said, "So through this microphone, you can see why some children are always bullied, right?

The strength of this parent is evident here.

I've come to this point,
He also said, "Oh, the parents are more familiar with each other and what are they doing?"

If the child is really familiar with you, the parent will definitely tell their children not to bully your child.

People will also take the initiative to restrain their children.

If they are really familiar with each other, then the parents will definitely tell the child, "He is the son of your father's friend, how can you bully him? Don't hit him anymore."

After saying it twice, the other child will become a better person and can even become friends with your child in the future.

Why do you dare to bully me all the time?

It’s because the other parents look down on you.

At the dinner table, the family said that your child’s parents are cowards.

That’s why other kids dare to bully your child.

I know that the other parents are unreasonable. What’s wrong with being unreasonable?
You can bully me, but you can’t bully my children.

The parents are unreasonable.
He won't reason with you, so why should I reason with you? ?
funny!

I don't like listening to you, so I'll kick you out. What's the problem?
Do you dare to scold me on the public screen?
Do you dare to post a video to slander me?

Coward! "(End of this chapter)