Transmigrating into the 1980s to raise younger siblings

336. Yu Hui
"I have been escaping the psychological shadow brought by my original family. I don't want to live like my mother, but in the end, I still live like her. Is this fate? Or a curse that cannot escape? Big girl , you told me before that if a person does not work hard, it is difficult to escape the harm left by the original family. I have been studying hard to earn money to support my family and not relying on others. Why do I still fail in life? Is this an inescapable fate? ?”

"Liu Yuhui, your fate is in your own hands, don't be so superstitious, your efforts are not in vain, at least, you are more capable of divorce than your mother was back then, and have the capital to start over."

"Big girl, I'm not superstitious, it's true, you see, my mother and father have a good relationship, but my father left after a while, and then met Wu Laosan, suffered so much, and finally got rid of it." After leaving him, I made money to support myself, and later married an old man. I heard that his wife died of illness. He never beat his wife, but after my mother was with him, she was still bullied by him... In her life, No matter who you look for, you can't end well, either you will suffer or be bullied."

"What about me! I have a job and income, and the person I'm looking for is also carefully selected. There is no problem with his character. He is not a bad person and has no bad habits. But after I got married, I found out that he is also domestic violence. Why is my fate the same as Like my mother, I always meet domestic violence men?"

Zhang Daniu: "What kind of personality will have what kind of fate. Your mother has low self-esteem, flattery, and blind obedience. This kind of personality is destined to be bullied no matter who is with him in this life, because she has no opinion and doesn't love herself. , even if you are bullied, you will not resist, just look at it and you will be bullied!"

"Human nature is like this, bullying and fearing evil. When people get along with each other, at the beginning, he didn't dare to act rashly. When he tested your bottom line a little bit and saw that your bottom line was very low or even had no bottom line, His courage will become bigger and bigger, and his behavior will become more and more presumptuous."

"So, how others treat you is what you secretly allow. This kind of statement may make you unacceptable, but it is the truth."

Liu Yuhui: "I really can't accept your statement. There is a natural disparity in strength between men and women. Men already have the upper hand in physical strength. Even if they resist, they will only suffer a stronger blow. After all, women with kung fu like you are in the minority .”

"Your mother chose Wu Laosan at the beginning because her life was in trouble, and she took Wu Laosan as a life-saving straw, but she met a rogue, and the old man she chose later looked good in all aspects on the surface, and there was no trace of beating anyone. , but in the end he beat someone, why didn't he dare to beat his ex-wife?"

"As for you! If the other party is an explosive, angry, and impulsive man, why did you choose to be with him in the first place? On the one hand, it means that his impulsive qualities attracted you at the beginning, because you are a Passive people, I hope to meet someone who is particularly active. On the other hand, you have not considered this kind of personality, because of emotional instability and impulsiveness, you will have a high frequency of disputes in your future life. "

"Yes, yes, big girl, you are so right. My ex-husband is such a person. He is impulsive, emotionally unstable, explosive and irritable. Before marriage, I didn't think there was anything wrong. I only found out after marriage. People with this personality are together, it is a disaster."

"So! It's your own personality that attracts this kind of person to you. You have low self-esteem and lack of love since you were young, especially fatherly love. You dare not take the initiative to men, so you like this kind of special enthusiasm that can express love enthusiastically. Because you lack love, you long for this kind of passionate love in your bones, but you don’t understand the shortcomings of people with this personality. Although they are very active and enthusiastic, they have a bad temper. He is a person with restraint, and the possibility of domestic violence will be much smaller."

"He is such a person, but he is not bad in nature, and he is still a good person in front of outsiders! Who knew that this kind of person would have domestic violence!"

"A person with this kind of personality is bound to be violent in the family! Because he is not calm in dealing with people and things, and it is better to say that he is impulsive, but a way he is used to."

"Big girl, although you haven't met my ex-husband, your analysis of his character is too correct."

"This kind of person can be called a person with a flawed personality. Of course, everyone has flaws in their personality and is not perfect. It's just that some people are more obvious and some people are not so obvious. If his essence is still Not bad, when you get along with him, don't irritate him, you can actually live on. But it's hard not to irritate him, because with your character, it's easy to make him angry. "

Liu Yuhui was very wronged.

"I didn't do anything wrong, how could it easily make him angry?"

"I can't explain this in two sentences. Some people quarrel when they are together, but they don't quarrel with another person. That is a personality mismatch. In the final analysis, it is a personality conflict."

"So, I have a personality conflict with him. I don't understand. How can there be a personality conflict? What is my problem?"

"You are a slow man, and he is a quick man. The quick man belongs to fire, and the slow man belongs to water. Water and fire are incompatible!"

"On the surface you didn't provoke him, but your slow motion and procrastinating habits often made him furious. Your character beat his character. From his point of view, he is also a victim. Yours If the character beats him, his liver must be bad."

Liu Yuhui sighed deeply.

"So, I should find a slow person so that the two of us can get along well?"

"When two people get along, the most important thing is to communicate and understand each other's personality, and then not touch each other's sex, otherwise, even if they have the same personality, they may not be able to get along well."

"Big girl, what you said has some truth, but it's too complicated. I'm afraid there are not many people who live as transparently as you."

"The relationship between people is a subject of knowledge, alright! Let's not talk about it, there will be opportunities to discuss it in the future, how old is your daughter?"

"Five years old!" Liu Yuhui sighed again.

"Why a girl? Why not a son?"

"Liu Yuhui, you won't be patriarchal too, will you?"

"It's not that I value sons over daughters, but that I don't want my daughter to follow the fate of my mother and me."

"You didn't follow your mother's fate, and neither will your daughter. If you want to change your fate and your daughter's fate, you have to change your mentality. You must believe that you can change your own destiny, and that your daughter will also have a A beautiful and happy marriage."

"I used to think that I could change, so I deliberately stayed away from my mother, not wanting to be influenced by her...but fate follows."

"You don't have the courage to face problems, and you can't hide from them."